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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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  • Maybe only me who thinks this

    Basically i think your safety thing needs improving.
    And while im writing this i want to say I am really really sorry for my posts recently. I Will not be posting even my thoughts on suicide anymore. And will be taking them somewhere else. But maybe some times i just wanted some help but couldn't get it myself.

    But it's more that when i read someone who's suicidal and sound at a real risk and they have opened up about their thoughts and what they have done. That is not what triggers or upsets me - it's that they wont be getting help.

    I've used childline 121 chat once. And that's only because the first time i used it was because they broke my confidentiality on something that was literally nothing. And makes me question your safety of things. And if you actually ever break confidentiality or if you can?
    Don't know where im goimg with this but you probably do what you think is righ then just ignore me. I dont mean to sound harsh just my concern
    The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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    Hi Mike
    Thanks for getting back and that link.
    It is related to that thread. I just think someone's safety especially if it's that serious is far more important then their confidentiality
    The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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    • #3
      Hey Shaunie, I think you are absolutely right! Also thanks for clarifying the confidentiality policy too Mike!
      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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      • #4
        I used to use Childline myself Shaunie but switched over to Kooth, they tend to break confidentiality very often and sometimes it will be rather silly things but my guess is possibly because young people use it most they likely want to be extra careful x
        "Don't call it a dream, call it a plan."


        Danny~

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        • #5
          Glad you agree
          I understand that but I mean rare cumstances would be life or death situations? But you dont ? I could give examples of ones that even police have/would get involve with. Ive been detained for whole 5/6 weeks just for having a plan.

          And in the nicest way possible I think if that sort of thing was taken more seriously on here would have a lot less triggering posts. And then would also take it more seriously and question before posting.

          Hope that makes sense and understand where im coming from.

          But other then that really good kept site
          The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Shaunie View Post
            Glad you agree
            I understand that but I mean rare cumstances would be life or death situations? But you dont ? I could give examples of ones that even police have/would get involve with. Ive been detained for whole 5/6 weeks just for having a plan.

            And in the nicest way possible I think if that sort of thing was taken more seriously on here would have a lot less triggering posts. And then would also take it more seriously and question before posting.

            Hope that makes sense and understand where im coming from.

            But other then that really good kept site
            Very good point!
            "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Saudade View Post
              I used to use Childline myself Shaunie but switched over to Kooth, they tend to break confidentiality very often and sometimes it will be rather silly things but my guess is possibly because young people use it most they likely want to be extra careful x
              I was actually thinking this was the reason for frequent confidentiality breaks over there earlier. Personally I've never had mine broken but I'm forever asking them about it cos it does worry me!
              "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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              • #8
                Ah
                so i used childline today and had like a 2 hour chat with them to tell me they're breaking my confidenality over abusing pills over a period of time. Then ended it. I went back to chaf to tell them im in hospital (Obviously not) but there reason was stupid and I'm not saying it's not why I dont use them but the first time they broke it was a lack of communication and misuderstanding whar i was saying is - why I dont use it. Not to sure they belived me so bsically sitting here hoping police aren't going to come to my door soon. Obviously I don't think your safety policy should be that stricted.

                @themix could you get back to me of my last reply or pm me? Its Just weird that if i said I was going to plan to kill someone (and hadnt of told anyone professionals aswell ) - you would of been on that straight away. It's still a life. I'm just saying for the safety of other users in future.
                Last edited by Shaunie; 07-05-2017, 10:02 PM.
                The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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                • #9
                  Thank you for that

                  But i feel like your missing my point a bit. I get that it's the wrong place to ask for help and all tbat . And completely understand you would remove it but i mean like the fact you know something like a plan. Like things like someon is immadiate danger can't really help because it take a while to get tbe help. - And if people know of their behaviours and are aware.

                  But something like a plan that no one else knows seems a bit different. And I get would feel less trusting but surely being here is more important then that. And surely if I've been detained for it then it's something by law you have to breach?

                  I've had countless of assigment work around confidenality and comminucation and that, that I've heard enough. And all the legilations and the Data Protection Act. But just concerns me. And someone saying they're going to kill themselves being a massive one to break confidentiality

                  Sorry if im being annoying or coming across as rude.
                  Last edited by Shaunie; 08-05-2017, 03:34 PM.
                  The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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                  • #10
                    And i get the different polices . Like samaratains don't have to but they probably don't have any policy to go by for safryu except to keep it all confidential but you have the data protection act
                    The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Shaunie View Post
                      Thank you for that

                      But i feel like your missing my point a bit. I get that it's the wrong place to ask for help and all tbat . And completely understand you would remove it but i mean like the fact you know something like a plan. Like things like someon is immadiate danger can't really help because it take a while to get tbe help. - And if people know of their behaviours and are aware.

                      But something like a plan that no one else knows seems a bit different. And I get would feel less trusting but surely being here is more important then that. And surely if I've been detained for it then it's something by law you have to breach?

                      I've had countless of assigment work around confidenality and comminucation and that, that I've heard enough. And all the legilations and the Data Protection Act. But just concerns me. And someone saying they're going to kill themselves being a massive one to break confidentiality

                      Sorry if im being annoying or coming across as rude.
                      I think I get what you mean. Just to clarify do you mean that you feel that if someone has a plan etc their confidentiality should be broken more easily on here?
                      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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                      • #12
                        Ah yeah basically!
                        The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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                        • #13
                          On support sites like this though it also depends on the persons age (to me, I dont know why) 13 or 30 somebody ending their own life is so so sad so I think it is wrong depending on someones age. I heard in a group chat on here that they have different policys for breaking confidentiallty for the younger ones and the older ones.
                          'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'

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                          • #14
                            Lostsense - I didn't know this? I do agree though I also feel is should be the same no matter the age of the person.
                            "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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                            • #15
                              Thats what someone said in support chat and it was one of the mods (not one of the main ones) but I dont know
                              'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'

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