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Support Circles on Sundays

Hey everyone,

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on 26 November. If you'd like to come along, (sign up by completing the form here )
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Chatwee Update

Update - There's been some technical difficulties launching Chatwee onto our website so we will not be moving to Chatwee on Thursday.

As soon as we fix this issue, we'll announce another date for launching. We're really sorry for the delay in Chatwee, thanks so much for your patience.
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Post of The Month (September)

Maisy is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Shaunie,

​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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Being labelled lazy for going to bed late & getting up late

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  • Being labelled lazy for going to bed late & getting up late

    Why is it that many people who go to bed late and get up late are labelled lazy, even if they are hardworking? People who go to bed early and get up early and who spend the same number of hours in bed are never labelled lazy for doing so. Why is it common for people to say: "You don't get up until ten - you're such a lazy bastard!" - but you never hear: "You go to bed at nine - you're such a lazy bastard!" If someone is up for the same number of hours and gets just as much done, where's the problem? Why do a lot of people who go to bed early and get up early hate people who go to bed late and get up late?

  • #2
    I've never heard of someone to be called lazy for their sleep pattern


    • #3
      I've been wrongly labelled lazy many times for often getting up relatively late. I've been told: "You're still in bed - you're so lazy!" "How can you still be in bed at this time? You're so lazy!" and I've heard someone say of me: "He was still in bed at 8.30 this morning - he's so lazy!" and "He's so lazy that he was in bed until nearly 9 this morning!" I asked my friends if they've been likewise accused - and some of those who said that they get up relatively late said that they have been.
      Last edited by Robert; 22-03-2017, 09:11 AM.


      • #4
        Hey Robert,

        I can appreciate what you're saying. In my experience, there can be a tendency for people to kind of bash on people who sleep in late, but I think that's just how society views sleeping in. If possible, I would encourage you to just ignore them. Yes, it might not be logical or fair for people to bug you about sleeping in, but it's just how many people are, and perhaps the best thing you can do is just do what is best for you without worrying about other people's opinions or comments!

        - Mica


        • #5
          There have been many occasions on which I've not been able to ignore them, because they've deliberately woken me up, shouting at me for 'being lazy' for not getting up early and demanding that I get up immediately. I've been told: "I've been up for over an hour and you're still lazing around in bed!"

          When it doesn't affect them, I don't understand their anger towards me.

          I've never actually been lazy - regardless of when I go to bed and get up. I've never criticised anyone for what time they go to bed or get up.
          Last edited by Robert; 22-03-2017, 10:17 AM.


          • #6
            I think it's because some people stay up until 4/5 am and then sleep in until the afternoon, so people view them as sleeping their 'day' away, but they fail to realise that they're actually up for the same amount of time as other people. My girlfriend focuses better in the evenings, so often stays up until the early hours and gets all her work done but her auntie views her as lazy bc she sleeps through some of the daylight hours. In this sense, people with this view must consider people who work nightshifts lazy? As they sleep all day.

            But honestly it's nobody else's business when you go to sleep or get up
            You're a ghost at most
            A set of empty bones
            Searching for anything and everything to make you feel whole


            • #7
              How can I stop people angrily criticising at me for it - or counter it when they do?

              Many people who go to bed early and get up early boast about it, saying things like: "I've got so much done whilst you've been lazing in bed!" and "I get up at 6 every morning - I can't believe that some lazy people are in still in bed at 8!" It's like they want a reward or medal for it and think they're superior.

              A related issue is early-risers making a lot of unnecessary noise early in the morning, with no consideration for anyone who doesn't get up as early as them. When I've asked them to please not do so, they told me that I shouldn't still be in bed at that time. At one place I lived at as a lodger, I was woken at 6-something every morning by the landlord shouting at the top of his voice: "Yay! It's a new day! Yyyyyaaaaaaaaaayyyyy!" His life was a mess, he was scruffy, fat, he'd been declared bankrupt, he was self-employed and wasn't getting regular work and he had nothing to be happy about - yet he didn't care.
              Last edited by Robert; 22-03-2017, 11:44 PM.


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