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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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    Hey everyone,

    About this time four years ago, I made my debut on the boards by asking everyone what their gangster name was. A bit of a weird entrance in retrospect, but this was the moment I properly joined the community having been a volunteer on and off for 6 years (anyone remember Do-it or Lifetracks?!)

    Since then it’s been an incredible journey getting to know everyone, from you old-timers to you new arrivals (and everybody in between of course ). You lot are some of the kindest, funniest, most passionate, most caring and most creative people I've known and it’s been an inspirational ride!

    But, as you might have guessed by now, my journey with The Mix is about to enter a new leg as I leave the team here at the end of the month. I’ll still be around on the boards or in chat here and there, but for the most part you may not see me about that much.

    The wonderful thing about this place is that you lot are in the driving seat, and as mods, we’re just along for the ride (and occasionally to be the SatNav operators ). When it comes to support, you folks can offer each other so much, and it’s been such a privilege seeing you all use your own experiences and insights to help each other through the tough times. This is the heart of the community, which I know will continue - as it always has - and that you’ll be in safe hands with Mike and Aife.

    You are all amazing people, and it's your compassion, wisdom and enthusiasm that make this place so special.

    Now, if you’ve gone back and read my first ever thread, you’ll soon realise that the formula I used for calculating gangsta names back then was pretty awful. So, I think it’s only right that I rectify the situation by using my last thread to improve it!

    Here it is then. Using this shiny, new and hopefully more successful formula, what is your gangsta name?
    Gangster name = your favourite ice cream flavour + favourite type of shoe

    Stay awesome

    Pistachio slippers / JPick / James
    Critics build nothing.

  • #2
    Jammmeeessss dont leave
    Tough times never last, but tough people do


    • #3
      I can be better, I'll even let you wear different colour jumpers!
      Tough times never last, but tough people do


      • #4
        Mint choc chip converse btw
        Tough times never last, but tough people do


        • #5
          Or are you moving into mine? That's fine
          Tough times never last, but tough people do


          • #6
            Sad to see you are leaving James. Youve helped out so much and for so long. You will be missed

            I wish you all the very best in what you are doing next
            Do take care

            -(Sorry i cant think of my fav shoe or ice cream flavour)
            "Recovery is my best revenge" - Carolyn Spring "Let your past make you better not bitter" - Unknown


            • #7
              JPICK You can't leave us

              I just want to thank you for the past 4 years, without yours and the other mods help, I don't think I'd be where I am today.

              Thank you so much for being amazing, and I wish you all the luck in the future!


              P.s - Gangster name - Vanilla Trainers
              Last edited by Hann; 21-09-2017, 05:52 PM.
              As said by Waynester Pickle - "Hann's Law, which states washing up must be done before 8:30" 22/12/14


              • #8
                James please dont go.

                I remember when i first came to The Mix - you were absolutely incredible and helped me settle in so well. I am going to be honest and say that i had to read this twice because im shocked and upset that you are going. You have helped me so much and without The Mix i honestly don't know where i would be. I remember the first time we met was at a workshop in the offices of John Lewis, i was so so shy and you made me feel at ease and, most recently the volunteer party during the counselling online chat workshop.

                It has been an absolute pleasure to know you, there have been times when i have wanted to kick you but now i see, you were making the right decisions. I am sure you will go far in whatever you wish to pursue. Good luck for the future!! *runs to buy some super glue so i can stick you to your seat in The Mix offices*

                Gangster name - cookie dough converses
                Last edited by Jacob101; 21-09-2017, 06:48 PM.
                Just someone changing to who they really are. Jessica, now Jacob, been a big step but im sure it will be an exciting journey.


                • #9
                  James sit your bum back down!! You can't leave us. you are part of the originals!!! ne of the only fragments left of thesite Going to miss you
                  Keep strong and remember who you are!


                  • #10
                    Good luck James in everything you do in the future, it will be sad to see you go. You are there for everyone and are an amazing person, kind and caring. I am sure you will be greatly missed by everyone. You have helped me so much, so thankyou. Please do come back and say hello again in the future, it will be great to see you again. Without the mods which run this site there would be no site so thankyou so putting up with everything, thankyou for always being here for everyone. Thanks James.

                    Gangster name= mint choc chip trainers

                    James thanks for everything.

                    Just for you:




                    • #11
                      Sad to hear you're going, I still remember the skype interview last year (i'm pretty sure), I was nervous thinking you was gunna be this scary person haha.

                      Good luck on your future endeavours and I hope you have a successful career
                      My hobby is bot busting ^_^


                      • #12
                        Awwwwwww James!!! Sad to hear you're leaving! Will miss you. I remember when I first joined you were one of the first to say hi to me!

                        Oh, and my gangster names: by the old formula, I'd be EMac. But by the new one... I'd be Mint Choc Chip Trainor 😂😂

                        I wish you the best of luck!
                        "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


                        • #13
                          I don't know where to start with this message. You'll be greatly missed by most people.
                          ​Always remember where you started be its equally as important to remember where you have been as well.
                          ​Keep with the music and personally I would love to hear how good you really are. No point in saying stay with us because its your time to move on and its important that you grow and adventure maybe somewhere outside of London (Come more up north maybe).

                          ​It was a pleasure to annoy you and lyrically pranking you.
                          ​Come back and see us in a few months once you have settled.

                          Speak soon

                          ​P.S I woke up saw this message and a few tears may have been shed.
                          I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.


                          • #14
                            Abigail i cried as well. Im sure other people have as well - The Mix is going to be wrong without you James . I still can't quite believe it to be honest.

                            James you need to do one or multiple chats before you go - not on a Wednesday though.
                            Last edited by Jacob101; 22-09-2017, 12:24 PM.
                            Just someone changing to who they really are. Jessica, now Jacob, been a big step but im sure it will be an exciting journey.


                            • #15
                              James man. Why you leaving us?!

                              We are all gonna miss you! Thank you for giving me chances and listening when I've been an utter pricks 👌


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