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One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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  • Chat Guidelines

    The Mix chat room is a safe and welcoming place to meet others, have a chat, and get support if you need it. Keeping it safe and welcoming is down to you. We allow a lot of freedom in chat but we do ask that you respect the group and communicate in a way that isn't upsetting to others.


    GROUP AGREEMENT

    Chat is a friendly place - I will be welcoming, respectful and ready to listen. Over time I might make friends with other chatters but if we're talking away from chat I agree to keep that separate and focus on the session I'm in.

    Chat is a group environment - I'm prepared for a bit of give and take and I'll help to include everyone. I'll also make sure I consider what I say and how it may impact others.

    Chat is a diverse place - We've all had different experiences and sometimes we might disagree on something, but that's OK. If I feel upset by something I'll self-moderate (take a break to calm down or use the ignore function).

    Chatters often choose to be anonymous - I won't repeat anything I hear in chat elsewhere and I won't share personal contact details in the chat room.

    Chatters who aren't able to co-operate risk being kicked out of chat sessions.



    Read the FULL GUIDELINES HERE.


    How can I give feedback about chat?
    If you want to give your feedback about a chat session you've attended then please get in touch by using the Feedback form

    Positive feedback and constructive criticism welcome.

    Happy chatting
    We're Aife, Mike and Emma: the staff team here at The Mix.
    While we can't offer support via this account, if you have any questions about this place, feel free to
    ask over in the
    Help Desk or send us a private message.

  • #2
    Just a bit of a moral dilemma I keep coming across in chat, and I think everyone else does too and it causes a bit of conflict sometimes.

    What if a topic or word is mentioned (that is not explicitly against the guidelines) that could be sensitive, and anyone is triggered?

    Is freedom of speech impeded and the topic/word etc. is banned, or does chat continue in spite of anyone triggered?

    There's a fine line between impeding free speech and keeping an environment safe for sensitive people, so I'm confused lol
    Tough times never last, but tough people do

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Aidan View Post
      Just a bit of a moral dilemma I keep coming across in chat, and I think everyone else does too and it causes a bit of conflict sometimes.

      What if a topic or word is mentioned (that is not explicitly against the guidelines) that could be sensitive, and anyone is triggered?

      Is freedom of speech impeded and the topic/word etc. is banned, or does chat continue in spite of anyone triggered?

      There's a fine line between impeding free speech and keeping an environment safe for sensitive people, so I'm confused lol
      amen to this.
      Last edited by Meggles; 17-08-2017, 09:10 PM.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Aidan View Post
        What if a topic or word is mentioned (that is not explicitly against the guidelines) that could be sensitive, and anyone is triggered?
        This is exactly what I mean. I had this problem the other week where I was flagged for using the term "binge" and before I could start talking about how I was feeling I had already descended into trying to argue my point, it wasn't specific in any way, shape or form. With some subjects it's inevitable that people will get triggered but it's your responsibility as an individual to remove yourself from that situation. Same as you would do if it were too hot, you'd go somewhere cooler.

        I get that you're trying to keep the environment as trigger free as possible but there is nothing wrong with using relevant terminology that is vague (enough as it is). We should have a bit more freedom considering it's a site aimed at young adults.
        Last edited by Salix alba; 18-08-2017, 02:22 AM. Reason: Condensed it.

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        • #5
          I think it's a two pronged problem:

          -The guidelines are a bit vague so people tip toe around subjects hoping to not trigger others (the guidelines were recently changed to be more explicit about eating, this is a step in the right direction )

          - It's the mods' jobs to give users a friendly reminder about guidelines if they are broken, it isn't down to other users. This often creates conflict and depending on how it is worded it can be hurtful to the other users.

          Some people are very good when it comes to knowing what to say and not say, but not everyone's a mind-reader :\
          Tough times never last, but tough people do

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          • #6
            As much as it is a responsibility to remove ourselves from the situation by using the mute button or taking a break from chat. Barely anyone does actually do it. If people actually took on board the whole mute or take a break. I'm pretty damn sure there will less people being banned for silly reasons.

            I don't see how just using a word is triggering and can cause conflict. I'd understand more of it was brought up with so much detail like binging and purging has on occasion, but I don't get how a simple world can cause so much conflict.
            In all honesty mods need to just freeze people as soon as conflict starts instead of riding it out and inturpting the whole chat.. it makes it less of a safe and supportive environment.
            They need to actually be more firm with the guidelines in chat

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            • #7
              I 100% agree with what has been said above. The chat is becoming more and more restricted in terms of language we can use. If a user becomes upset or triggered by a certain word then it is up to them to take a step back to look after their own wellbeing which at the moment doesn't usually happen, it normally leads down the other path which is conflict which majority of the time is prolonged by the mods saying, mute the user but how is dodging the confrontation going to fix things, we can't just go pretending that it never happen - we need to face the problem head on.

              Also it is the moderators job in chat to in force the chat guidelines instead of users. Some users feel like they have to take over that job sometimes due to the moderators doing absolutely nothing. Us users seem to know so much more than them.
              Just someone changing to who they really are. Jessica, now Jacob, been a big step but im sure it will be an exciting journey.

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              • #8
                i feel like as a community we should be able to come together like this and have more of an input and work along side the mods to improve the services provided.
                such as a workshop to go through the guidance and allow us to have a say so situations like this dont occur etc.
                because until this point. i feel like we as users just get slienced.. but its us using the services and we should have a voice

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Meggles View Post
                  i feel like as a community we should be able to come together like this and have more of an input and work along side the mods to improve the services provided.
                  such as a workshop to go through the guidance and allow us to have a say so situations like this dont occur etc.
                  because until this point. i feel like we as users just get slienced.. but its us using the services and we should have a voice
                  Well said
                  I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Meggles View Post
                    i feel like as a community we should be able to come together like this and have more of an input and work along side the mods to improve the services provided.
                    I think a collaboration with the mods to make the mix better is a great idea!
                    Tough times never last, but tough people do

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Meggles View Post
                      i feel like as a community we should be able to come together like this and have more of an input and work along side the mods to improve the services provided.
                      such as a workshop to go through the guidance and allow us to have a say so situations like this dont occur etc.
                      because until this point. i feel like we as users just get slienced.. but its us using the services and we should have a voice
                      100% agree
                      Just someone changing to who they really are. Jessica, now Jacob, been a big step but im sure it will be an exciting journey.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Aidan View Post

                        I think a collaboration with the mods to make the mix better is a great idea!

                        workshop chats, threads for us to express ideas.
                        by coming together as a community we can work through these issues, conflicts and work alongside the mods to make chat and the boards a more community feeling place

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                        • #13
                          The Mix better not put us up for the firing squad for this lmao. we just want to express how we feel and be heard and make positive changes in the community so please listen to us

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                          • #14
                            Firing squad
                            You guys at the mix, what you think? And I don't mean about firing squads
                            Tough times never last, but tough people do

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Meggles View Post


                              workshop chats, threads for us to express ideas.
                              by coming together as a community we can work through these issues, conflicts and work alongside the mods to make chat and the boards a more community feeling place

                              Sounds good

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