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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you don’t already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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Chat guidelines - your feedback!

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    Hey everyone!

    During chat break week, we asked you to give us your feedback on the current chat guidelines. We wanted to understand your thoughts about them so we could potentially make some tweaks and changes to them. As a team, we've gone through all of the feedback we received and we've made a few changes.

    Part 1 - Eating and self-harm

    After reading through your feedback, we found that many of you felt the Eating issues and Self harm guidelines were vague and confusing. Some of you felt that you weren't too sure what you could talk about in chat.

    To help make these guidelines more clear, we've added more description into them to help make things less vague. We felt giving examples could be helpful for those of you who often feel unsure of what you can talk about in relation to these topics. The area's coloured in purple are what we've added in.

    Eating issues - We promote healthy eating here but not obsessive dieting. It’s okay to respectfully tell people what you struggle with (e.g. “I struggle with overeating”), but please avoid sharing details about your specific weight, calorie counts or any specific behaviours (such as what or how much you've been eating or drinking). Instead we encourage you to focus on your feelings.
    Self harm – Chatters will be happy to listen to your feelings and offer support to help with your self-harm. However, please avoid any graphic detail or description of methods (such as where or how you’ve harmed yourself). Instead we encourage you to focus on feelings (e.g. “I feel like harming myself because..”).
    What do you all think of these changes?

    Part 2 - Strictness

    We also asked you all how strict you think our guidelines should be, overall, on a scale of 1 (very strict) to 6 (very relaxed). The response we got to this question was pretty mixed. Here's a graph to show what you all said:

    As you can see, we have a wide spread of opinion here - we have roughly 50% of you each side of the scale.

    We also asked you how you felt about the strictness of each individual topic. Here's what you said about that, on average:

    On average, it looks like you're all after a healthy balance when it comes to strictness - something we had in mind when we wrote these guidelines. Going by the feedback you gave us and the wide spread of opinion on this, we won't be making them stricter or more relaxed. We'll be maintaining the balance we currently have.

    Part 3 - 'Group agreement' vs 'guidelines'

    One of the things we asked you about was whether we should call the guidelines “Chat Guidelines” or “Group Agreement”. 67% of you voted for the guidelines to be called Chat Guidelines, so we’ll keep them as they are.

    Here's a graph to show the results!

    We hope you enjoyed reading through this thread. We'd love to hear your thoughts about anything, feel free to comment below or PM us!

    Aife & Mike

    PS: head over to this thread to see what you said about our new GC.
    We're Aife, Mike and Emma: the staff team here at The Mix.
    While we can't offer support via this account, if you have any questions about this place, feel free to
    ask over in the
    Help Desk or send us a private message.

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