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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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Does wolf whistling and shouting from cars anoy you?

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  • Does wolf whistling and shouting from cars anoy you?

    Hi guys here's another randomish thred
    Does wolf whistling and/or people shouting from cars annoy you?

    I was walking to work the other day when someone in a car beeped and shouted something through the window of his car. Which made me just as I didn't expect it. I recognise him from him doing this to me before quite a few times. I can never catch what he is saying but it's definitely not something nice.

    I wouldn't consider myself a grate looking person but the amount of times people have wolf whistled me when I'm going to meet someone or on occasion just walking home after seeing a friend or going work lol. This happened the other week I was actually heading out for a first date when an older man wolf whistled at me as I walked past. To be honest I did have a bit of a laugh when I told my date and he said "don't worry I'll never do that...... I can't wolf whistle." This lightened my mood again lol

    Prehaps it's just me but it really annoys me, I don't find it funny or complementary it's just annoying!! and sometimes if it's late on or it's quiet around it can feel quite intimidating (particularly shouting from the car.) it's not so bad now but used to make me feel really anxious when I was younger (around 16) Where it mostly just annoys me now lol.



    Like I say that my opinion what do you guys think?

    EmmaXx

  • #2
    My street is very isolated, cars barely drive past and if so, they won't usually do anything. We barely interact with each other.

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    • #3
      So you live in a quiet area. To be fair sometimes I wish I did ha ha ha xx

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      • #4
        Originally posted by One-in-a-million View Post
        So you live in a quiet area. To be fair sometimes I wish I did ha ha ha xx

        Yep, i live in a pretty quiet area, apart from the fact that about 8-10 classmates were making noise a couple of nights ago because they were all hanging out two houses away from me. Couldn't hear it whilst in my room though thankfully. These are isolated incidences though.

        Quiet areas are good areas because no one bothers you although no one's there to brighten up your evening walk to home by doing/saying something funny/ridiculous. Although then it would be a lot more like America.

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        • #5
          I used to get this quite often and in remote areas it can scare me a little at the best of times, I don't get it much anymore since I cut my hair. instead now I get people laughing at me but its a little less scary. people need to start realizing that wolf whistling isn't a compliment it invalidates people and makes them uncomfortable x
          "Weave me a rope that will pull me through these impossible times"
          ~ Tim Finn



          - LAINE

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          • #6
            I never get wolf whistled by my Majorcan guys, any of them, but Brit tourists or Brits generally wolf whistle me even from their cars. I flip them the finger and get on my way. :P
            The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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            • #7
              Of course and I hate it.

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              • #8
                I don't understand wolf-whistling at all. Firstly, it's outright rude to harrass someone on how they look. But also, it doesn't work! Not once have I ever seen a victim of wolf-whistling turn around and proceed to go home with the wolf-whistler! xD

                Point being, it's rude and useless, so why people persist with it is beyond my understanding.

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                • #9
                  Builders do it in England far more than any Europen country. Must be Brit mentality
                  The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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