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Post of The Month (September)

Maisy is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Shaunie,

​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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Confused and curious about being trans

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    Hey, I am gay and recently ive been dressing as a woman and loving acting like a woman and i'm a bit curious about being transgender. Like i just want some peoples advice and opinions on the subject as a whole?

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    Hey Kaitiiia,

    Welcome to the boards! It's great to hear that you are able to question and honour your sexuality. We have a few articles on The Mix that might be helpful and/or interesting to you about being LGBTQ. You can find them here and here. We've seen some interest by other members of the boards around LGBTQ recently, so hopefully others will chime in and give their advice/ opinions to you

    Have a lovely day,
    - Mica


    • #3
      Sorry I can't offer you much help, I'm not homosexual myself. However, I am confused sexually as no one of any gender turns me on, although I do still imagine myself being with a woman probably for no other reason than because it's what society accepts.

      There's nothing anyone can do about their sexual orientation and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's great that you're open about it!

      Being transgender though is different entirely. It's more than a matter of sexual orientation, it's a matter of identity and who you are. A straight man could be trangender, and then be a lesbian woman. Sexual orientation plays a small part in it.

      Do you feel more comfortable as a woman? Do you feel more like yourself as a woman? If so, then go for it! But let the final decision be because of who you think you are, not because of who you wanna f**k.

      Good luck with it, hope you figure it out! : )
      No matter how hard it will get
      We will pull always through
      ​Because I'll never forget
      ​It's the human thing to do


      • #4
        Yeah i do feel more comfortable as a woman, however im not very confident about going out as one. Ive never given a shit about what people think because im gay but being a woman in public kinda scares me because ive never been out as one before. I just don't know if im a little gay boy or a little straight girl xD haha


        • #5
          Also if anyone wants to private message me whos trans id love to talk


          • #6
            Hey there and first off welcome to the boards i hope you find them helpful i'm an openly trans male so i'd be more than happy to send you a message and see how i can help, it can be confusing over whether you are or not and ultimately it is up to you to work it, do you like to do it full time?
            "Weave me a rope that will pull me through these impossible times"
            ~ Tim Finn

            - LAINE


            • #7
              I'm happy to be messaged about this if you want a hand exploring gender identity - it can be super confusing.


              • #8
                Hey everyone - just a quick message to say I've moved this to our Gender & Sexuality forum.

                Worth bearing in mind too that the great thing about using open threads like this is that you can hear from lots of people.

                How are you getting on Kaitiiia?
                Critics build nothing.


                • #9

                  My partner is transgender so I can offer some advice from that point of view. It's important to remember that gender is a spectrum and maybe one day you feel comfortable dressed as a woman and other days you won't.

                  My partner is a binary trans person but before he came out as trans he thought he was a lesbian. I think you just need to explore your feelings, do you like men as a gay man or do you like men as a straight woman? It can be a long road to find out who you are, but keep doing what makes you happy and don't worry about a specific box to fit in for now.


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