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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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    My name is Greg and I'm 14.

    I think I might be gay but I really don't know. A lot of my friends have started to be interested in girls and I'm not interested in them at all and am having feelings about boys. I find it really scary and don't know what to do.
    Last edited by vidhya; 09-10-2017, 03:42 PM.

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    Originally posted by Dibs03 View Post

    My name is Greg and I'm 14.

    I think I might be gay but I really don't know. A lot of my friends have started to be interested in girls and I'm not interested in them at all and am having feelings about boys. I find it really scary and don't know what to do.

    Hi Greg,

    The most important thing to remember is this is a completely normal way to feel and you're not alone.

    I'd definitely recommend you going with what you feel and being proud of these feelings, after all they define you as a unique and individual person. When you are surrounded by people that may seem to be more confident in how they feel, it can be hard - but there may be things that they are themselves struggling with understanding, after all, it sometimes takes time to really understand and know what these feelings are.

    In all honesty, you don't need to tell anyone yet, neither do you need to be 100% sure; there will always be people who will support you as you go on this journey through life. You're 14 and as you get older, there may be more things that you see/recognise and as you meet more people which will allow you to form a stronger belief in how you understand yourself. There are older people than you who are unsure and it's all about trusting yourself - and being proud and happy. There's always people to speak to and once you look back on this in a few years, you'll be proud of yourself and how you've acted.

    Keep talking to different types of people as their experiences can really help you, theres honestly nothing to be scared of!

    Best Wishes,

    Liam x


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      My name is Eleanor and I'm also 14. I have the same, but with being bisexual.

      Liam has given you some amazing and very correct advice, you don't have to label yourself nor do you have to tell people if you aren't ready to tell them. You can take your time in figuring this out, it doesn't have to be today, or next week, or next year. Take all the time you need to figure out your sexuality.

      Take care.
      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


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        My name is Edward, and I'm 16.

        You shouldn't feel scared - as being gay isn't something strange or weird. It's perfectly normal. A lot of celebrities are gay, such as Rupert Everett and Charlie Carver.

        I am friends with a lot of gay people, and bisexual and transgender people too. If you ever want to speak to someone about feeling gay, then just message me. I am here to help and support you. Just because you are gay, or think that you might be gay, doesn't mean that this is wrong.

        PM me if you need someone to speak to



        • #5
          Hey Greg I know this thread is a little bit old but I was just wondering if you were feeling any better?

          Sexuality takes time to figure out and you can take as long as you want its not a race and whatever the outcome just remember you are not any weirder than any of us, being gay, bi, pan, etc. its all completely normal and won't change anything about you. these feelings can be hard to deal with but it's important you accept yourself, i'm always around if you need to message someone
          take care
          "Weave me a rope that will pull me through these impossible times"
          ~ Tim Finn

          - LAINE


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