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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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    My name is Greg and I'm 14.

    I think I might be gay but I really don't know. A lot of my friends have started to be interested in girls and I'm not interested in them at all and am having feelings about boys. I find it really scary and don't know what to do.
    Last edited by vidhya; 09-10-2017, 04:42 PM.

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    Originally posted by Dibs03 View Post

    My name is Greg and I'm 14.

    I think I might be gay but I really don't know. A lot of my friends have started to be interested in girls and I'm not interested in them at all and am having feelings about boys. I find it really scary and don't know what to do.

    Hi Greg,

    The most important thing to remember is this is a completely normal way to feel and you're not alone.

    I'd definitely recommend you going with what you feel and being proud of these feelings, after all they define you as a unique and individual person. When you are surrounded by people that may seem to be more confident in how they feel, it can be hard - but there may be things that they are themselves struggling with understanding, after all, it sometimes takes time to really understand and know what these feelings are.

    In all honesty, you don't need to tell anyone yet, neither do you need to be 100% sure; there will always be people who will support you as you go on this journey through life. You're 14 and as you get older, there may be more things that you see/recognise and as you meet more people which will allow you to form a stronger belief in how you understand yourself. There are older people than you who are unsure and it's all about trusting yourself - and being proud and happy. There's always people to speak to and once you look back on this in a few years, you'll be proud of yourself and how you've acted.

    Keep talking to different types of people as their experiences can really help you, theres honestly nothing to be scared of!

    Best Wishes,

    Liam x


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      My name is Eleanor and I'm also 14. I have the same, but with being bisexual.

      Liam has given you some amazing and very correct advice, you don't have to label yourself nor do you have to tell people if you aren't ready to tell them. You can take your time in figuring this out, it doesn't have to be today, or next week, or next year. Take all the time you need to figure out your sexuality.

      Take care.
      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


      • #4

        My name is Edward, and I'm 16.

        You shouldn't feel scared - as being gay isn't something strange or weird. It's perfectly normal. A lot of celebrities are gay, such as Rupert Everett and Charlie Carver.

        I am friends with a lot of gay people, and bisexual and transgender people too. If you ever want to speak to someone about feeling gay, then just message me. I am here to help and support you. Just because you are gay, or think that you might be gay, doesn't mean that this is wrong.

        PM me if you need someone to speak to



        • #5
          Hey Greg I know this thread is a little bit old but I was just wondering if you were feeling any better?

          Sexuality takes time to figure out and you can take as long as you want its not a race and whatever the outcome just remember you are not any weirder than any of us, being gay, bi, pan, etc. its all completely normal and won't change anything about you. these feelings can be hard to deal with but it's important you accept yourself, i'm always around if you need to message someone
          take care
          ""You are not your illness. You have an individual story to tell. You have a name, a history, a personality. staying yourself is part of the battle."
          ~ Julian Seifter

          -L A N E


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