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Christmas Quiz Wed 7-8pm

On Wednesday 13th December from 7-8pm we'll be hosting a Christmas Quiz live in The Mix chat room with loads of great prizes

More info about the quiz and the prizes up for grabs here.

We're looking for people to write and host rounds. If you're interested, make sure to send us a PM or comment on the thread linked above.
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Post of The Month

Esme17 is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey. Hope you are doing okay?

I completely understand what you mean about feeling low mainly at night. like you said, It is probably because you have nothing else you need to be doing then and so have more time to think. Is there anything you could do that makes you feel slightly happier during this time (watch a film, read etc..)?

Do you know what is making you feel this way? I know you mentioned losing your nan which must have been really hard for you and Iím very sorry to hear that!

Iím not too sure what would be best for you to do in the situation but i would say it would be best to speak to someone like your gp because they could tell you for sure if it does need looking into more and even if it didnít, it would put your mind at rest a bit? I know how hard it can be seeing someone though so just make sure you do what feels right for you.

Remember you can also always come to the board to get support and to chats as well.

Let us know how things go? Iím sorry if this didnít help at all, I think I rambled a bit but I tried...

Esme x"
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Support Circles on Sundays

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on the 17th of December. If you'd like to come along, feel free to sign-up closer to the time (when we post the thread for it).
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    Hi,

    I just wanted to post on here because Iv been thinking about what I like. For a long time I was certain that I was bisexual but now Iím really not sure. Is it neasasary to label ourselves? Who we love is who we love right? No matter what gender they are. Just wanna know if anyone also has any tips on coming out to your parents. Thankyou

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    Hi @Butterfly23

    There is no need to label our sexuality because it is so fluid. We could be lesbian and have no feelings towards guys, but still be attracted to one that has a particular way about him, something that is warm and caring. Sexual fluidity means your sexuality varies from time to time.Sexuality is diverse, and deeply personal. Understanding our sexuality is about the sexual feelings and attractions we feel towards other people, not about who we have sex with. There are different types of sexuality, and it can take time to figure out what fits right with you.

    At one time I thought I was bisexual, but that feeling misted away when meeting Dixie; that one lingering look, that touch of her hand, then she hugged me and her eyes dilated as she gazed into mine, melting me to fall helplessly headlong into a beautiful melty relationship.... that we have been together ever since, deeply committed in a lesbian relationship that has seen us happy together with virtually no arguments for four incredible years going five. Men have no attraction to either of us, even the prettiest of guys. Mum for the outset loved my girlfriend's gentle way and softly spoken voice that she took to Dixie straight away.

    My advice is to get to know other lesbians, just as friends, and when that girl comes along who you 'feel' something for - you find her intriguing or feel self-conscious around her or just want to know her better, then go for it. Here are some possible signs to be aware of:

    Eye contact, if she looks at you constantly in a gazy sort of way or distracted way. Asking her, ask her maybe if a good looking guy is hot, good looking, handsome, not interested, etc. Try flirting with her, even, and see how she reacts; if she is nervously biting her lip then there could be a strong possibility she is thinking of kissing you; or if she tries to get to know you, asking questions about you, perspiring lightly and breathing very little while twiddling her hair and holding her steady gaze upon you as you talk, or her talking... in which case I firmly you would be on your way into finding her to be that adorable woman you will love and keep loving for her sweetness, generosity of heart and love for you no matter what anyone else says. I hope these helped.

    You could join an LGBT centre, or tjier forum or contact them. Nationally they are absolutely wonderful to people who are unsure and are searching. There is no time limit into discovering your sexuality, hun. But I know where I am in my life with my Dixie and next year will see a wedding ring on our fingers.

    Hugs
    Julie
    The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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      julie thanks for that story and itís good that you found Dixie. I agee with everything you said an I hope that one day I will find someone who I love deeply x

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        Hi @Butterfly23

        You are always welcome to pm me, and any time. If I can help, I will. If I don't know anything, then I'll find out.
        The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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          Thankyou Princesa

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            Hey Butterfly23 ,

            I hope you're doing well.

            Absolutely no need to label your sexuality, or come out to anyone if you don't feel ready to do so. Yes, you're right - who you love is who you love, it doesn't matter that person's gender. If you love them then you love them!!

            Take care!
            "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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              Hi Butterfly,

              Just following on from what the others have said there defiantly isn't any need to label your sexuality at all and coming out isn't something which you have to do. Hopefully in the future people wont have to worry about coming out to others, as it will be fine to just love who you like and that will be the normal thing, and the gender of the individual wont matter.

              How are you feeling at the moment?

              Rayofhope
              You're much stronger than you think you are. Trust me. - superman.

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                Hi Butterfly23 ,

                I agree with you all here and think that we shouldn't have to label ourselves.

                Really labels are just a way for society to put people in boxes and keep people in order.

                I know that parts of the world are still struggling with the fluidity of sexuality but I hope that times are changing and people are becoming aware of how different people are.

                I also don't think everyone has to come out. I mean, you never have someone sit their parents down and say: "I have something to tell you....I am heterosexual." So don't feel pressured if you don't want to. The time may come when you want to talk about it with them and if that does happen, you can always hint first to guage their reaction. For example, asking what they think about [insert celebrity or person] who has recently spoken about their fluid sexuality.

                Other people sometimes decide to tell their parents when they are in a relationship with someone. And introducing them ends up being their own was of 'coming out'.

                If you find that you do want to reach out and meet others, like Princesa suggested, joining or going to an LGBT centre is great. There are so many things out there and meeting others who feel the same as you do is such a comforting thing.

                Plus, everyone will embrace you for who you are there and give you plenty of advice.

                Like you said, who we love is who we love!

                -PositiveAura

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                  Good Sunday morning to you, @Butterfly23

                  Our LGBT centre is super-helpful and most supportive. They are knowledgeable about the various aspects of sexuality, so drop in at one of their branches, but it's probably best if you sign with them to get updates.
                  The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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