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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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    Ever since my cousin has been unwell (middle of Jan) and had to have a major op and now starting his chemo I feel that the whole world is on top of me. I feel I have the pressure to keep working to support the family and also the pressure to be strong and not let my emotions show infront of my younger sister and rest of my family!

    ​I just feel every night I need my aunt here to tell me everything will be okay and help me thorugh this situation. Every night I stay up for ages trying not to cry and trying to tell myself things will work out in the end. I just need my auntie by my side every night to tell me that everything is going to be okay or at the end of the phone. She has been away for 3 weeks now so this hasn't been possible and my sleeping patterns are starting to suffer. She is back on the 5th!

    ​IS it normal to feel like this?! I just need my auntie and a cuddle every now and then to tell me things will be okay. MY family don't know how weak I'm really am as deep down I'm crying inside and this whole situation is putting me down but to them I'm just trying to be brave and keep strong

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    Hi Laura,
    It sounds like you have it really hard at the minute. You can PM me if you want, to talk.

    I know you feel like you need to be strong, but there's nothing wrong with letting your emotions out in front of your family. It's human. And I'm sure they want to be there for you, but they can't know how much you're suffering unless you talk to them. You don't have to of course, but if it's taking a toll on you, it's probably for the best.

    Nothing wrong with needing a hug every now and again. And I'm glad you have someone as close to you as your auntie to help you. Nothing wrong with that either. As for wondering if it's normal- you shouldn't compare yourself to other people. What matters is if it's normal for you.

    I hope your cousin is doing okay.
    I'm here if you want to chat, I hope things get better for you.
    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


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      Hi Aidan, thanks for the reply. Yeah things are hard for me at the moment, I have sent you a PM so message me back when you can.
      ​Yeh I feel I need to be strong for the sake of my family and I don't find it easy to talk to my family about how I'm feeling about things, I'm more comfortable talking to my aunt then my immediate family but that's because of whats happened in the past. Ill probably just speak to my auntie about it when she gets home from holiday on Sunday and see what she suggests.
      ​Yeah I feel that I want my auntie around me at the moment but its not possible as she is away and even when she is back she lives an hour and half away from us. I just feel I need her by my side at the moment to tell me everything will be okay. She has helped me though a lot recently and right now I just want her with me. She has been there though times when ive just felt like giving up and I wouldn't be the person I am today without her help. She has helped me when ive been upset and she has kept things from my parents because she knew it was best to.
      ​I hope my cousin is okay but until we hear from him you just think the worse
      ​I'm always here for you too Aidan. thanks

      See some of my other posts that ive posted threads on in the last 24hours!: :
      ​Tattoo pain- 3 tattoos in and still haven't spoken to my parents
      ​Back to work after a broken foot
      ​Over a week since my cousin started chemo- still worried- is this normal

      ​Some of my other posts that could read:
      ​Not feeling myself recently
      Today is the day!!!
      ​Family Relationship

      ​Have a read of some of my other posts and I will look at yours x


      • #4
        Hey Laura,

        Hope you're feeling better today! What you're going through is really tough so really well done for coming on here and posting about it! Really brave of you <3 Try not to feel like everything depends on you because both you and your whole family deserve to feel happy. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you are, as most people would in this situation, but your mental health is just as important so don't forget to look after yourself too.

        Hope to speak soon,
        Hugs from Drea


        • #5
          Hi Drea, thanks for the reply. not feeling any better too be honest. thanks for saying that I was brave to post it and yeah what I'm going through is really tough. Ill try not to think that everything depends on me but its hard not to at the moment. work has been hard the last few weeks as well which hasn't helped matters. good to hear that's its normal because I just sometimes feel its just me overthinking stuff. I'm trying to look after myself but its not easy!


          • #6
            Loads of hugs Laura
            'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'


            • #7
              Hi Laura, nothing wrong with needing a hug. Here's a vertual one *hugs*! I hope things start to look up for you soon.
              "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


              • #8
                Thanks Lostsense and Elleloveschocolate for the replies. I'm trying to be positive but its so hard


                • #9
                  Originally posted by Laura12345 View Post
                  Thanks Lostsense and Elleloveschocolate for the replies. I'm trying to be positive but its so hard
                  I know it is lovely! I'm thinking about you evan when I'm offline💜💚
                  'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'


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