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Support Circles on Sundays

Hey everyone,

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on 26 November. If you'd like to come along, (sign up by completing the form here )
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Chatwee Update

Update - There's been some technical difficulties launching Chatwee onto our website so we will not be moving to Chatwee on Thursday.

As soon as we fix this issue, we'll announce another date for launching. We're really sorry for the delay in Chatwee, thanks so much for your patience.
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Post of The Month (September)

Maisy is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Shaunie,

​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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  • #16
    Hey Kayden,
    I'm really sorry for what you're going through at the moment! You say that you wish you could say what is on your mind, but in a way you are; right here! It's always good to start with baby steps. And to post it all here is a great place to start. We are all here for you and are always there to hear you out! It's completely understandable that you find it difficult to speak out about things which you experienced, particularly if it was traumatic. All of these people are there to help you out and care about you! If they didn't, they wouldn't visit or call you so often, so it would be really good to try to talk to them. If anything, you can always start by telling them that you really do wish you could tell them what you're feeling, but you find it hard to talk about, as long as you're comfortable with that. That way if they're aware of how you feel, they can take it in baby steps too. Communication with them can be very beneficial because then they can work at your pace, rather than vice versa. Hope this helps and hope to hear from you soon <3
    Hugs from us all here at The Mix
    Drea

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    • #17
      Hi Drea,

      Thanks for replying and thank you for your kind words. I could probably tell them im finding it hard to open up but really want to. I just dont want to become a mute again im afraid its going to happen i keep getting frightening thoughts.. that my mum will find out ive changed my number and deactivated my fb account and realise ive told people about the abuse she put me through so she will contact my housing options worker and try give them a bullshit story and get me kicked out of the refuge. I feel safe here but at the same time i dont. Im going to chill tonight with strongbow and pizza! I really want to tell my worker how i feel. Cant even write it down as i have no bloody paper! Shes taking me to an assessment with Mind tomorrow so will probably ask me how im doing in the car. I just dont know what to say. She said i was looking brighter than friday but inside i feel worse than friday. Suicidal thoughts and ideation running through my mind all the time.. dont know really

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      • #18
        Hey Kayden,
        You've opened up a lot and we're really proud of you. Especially since you already mentioned it's difficult for you so honestly well done, you should be so proud of yourself. You're a really strong individual! These thoughts are normal to have, but of course it doesn't mean it's good to have them since it's clearly affecting you! It may be good to look at talking to someone anonymously, that way you can share how you feel but they wouldn't know who you are. Just suggesting this as part of taking the 'baby steps'. Even maybe e-mailing an expert or texting. It can be distressing when someone asks you to just pour your heart out to them when you havent done it in a while and the last time you did, you suffered from anxiety. So it could be beneficial talking to an expert anonymously if you're comfortable with that, and then allowing them to help you and tell you which steps to take next? We'll provide some links for you to visit! Btw, pizza and strongbow sounds amazing, I'm a bit jealous haha.

        Hope you have a better day and look forward to hearing from you soon!
        Links:
        http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can...you/contact-us
        http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/areaspage.html
        http://www.supportline.org.uk/

        Sending hugs,
        Drea

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        • #19
          Hi Drea,

          I had an assessment with mind. I was so anxious i had to focus on my breathing all the way through the assessment, my support worker waa with me too. I couldnt even get my words out so my support worker spoke on my behalf sometimes.. i feel so stupid. But now im able to atten their peer support groups and anxiety and depression groups. May go there on thursday and see how it goes. I saw someone brought a puppy today when i was on my way out so maybe that would make me feel more at ease - animals always do. I may type whats going on through my mind on the computer but there is no ink to print it so idk how im going to show my support worker. Would feel dumb if i asked her to come to the computer to read it..

          Im struggling with my suicidal thoughts. I get so lonely in the evenings too. Im crying typing this because im hurting so much. I want the pain to stop. How could a mother abuse her child..

          The pizza was alright, anything tastes good when youve had a drink! Felt it this morning though!

          Thank you for those links, i will have a look at them. I know about samaritans but they are more concerned about getting off the phone to me - well the ones ive spoken to, not all but some. Puts me off a lot. I'll take a look at supportline. Im already on a counsellor waiting list for sexual abuse with SARC. And currently on a waiting list for counselling about my past, more like a private counsellor as i have to pay towards the sessions but it means i can see someone quicker. Have to phone him back in 4 weeks to see if there is space.

          Thanks Drea!

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          • #20
            So just spent 4 hours typing my life story on the computer and sent it to my worker via email... she was happy to do it that way.. such a relief. Just anxious about what she will say when she has read it tomorrow..

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            • #21
              Hey Kayden,
              That's such great news! Sooooo proud of you for doing that! You're taking a step in the right direction, and remember that your worker is only there to help Puppy therapy is the best, highly recommend :D
              Look forward to hearing from you soon, and hope you have an amazing day. Well done again for sending the e-mail

              Drea

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              • #22
                Hi Drea,
                Thank you! I know shes only trying to help. Im anxious about her response when she sees me tomorrow. I wrote very personal things down. Ive just swallowed cod and chips. Strongbow is a must tonight!

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                • #23
                  My stomach keeps turning. Currently in the lounge knowing my worker has probably read what i sent her by now. Shes giving me a lift in 5 mins somewhere so i know it will come up. Feel physically sick. Heads not in the right place today.

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                  • #24
                    hope it goes well with her kayden - thinking of you x

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                    • #25
                      Hey Jelly,

                      She read it after she dropped me off. She sent me an email back saying thank you for trusting me with all of this and that "you have been through so much.. and you have more strength than you realise" so me being my depressive self wrote back why i dont have strength and that i cant carry on much longer. Probably shouldnt of said that. She said she will chat to me when im back. I came back and went straight to my room. Still in my room. But i have to give them service charge so have to go down at some point.. great. x

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                      • #26
                        Hey kayden.... be brave and go down see them, they only want to help you. I think she is right you have more strength than you realise. You got this x

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                        • #27
                          Hey Jelly, i went down to pay my service charge but my worker wasnt in the room. So ive come back upstairs. I dont even know what to say about what i wrote to her. I cant really just say can i have a chat with you now and sit there in silence. Dont even know what to talk about. Dont even want to tell her about my suicidal thoughts because 1 rule is to not emotionally distress anyone.. i wish i could see it really jelly. Going to tesco in a bit. Alcohol and some food. Cant cope. x

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                          • #28
                            Okay, so i ended up talking to her. It was so awkward as there were a lot of long silences at the start. She was going on about my self harming, asking if im thinking of doing anything.. so i said thats why im not staying in my bedroom because i know i will do something. She asked if i would phone on call if i needed to talk. I said no because i felt bad about the weekend and on call had to come out then the manager.. she tried to reassure me saying thats what on call is there for and that if i needed to self harm to ring them before i do anything and talk through my feelings with them.. so idk if i will do that. Deffo not tonight as im going to start drinking soon. She said she will have another chat with me tomorrow as we were talking for 45 minutes and she had to go home as her shift just ended. She was on about me going back with the crisis team but i said no because i would have to go through more assessments and i dont like talking about the voices. I knew i had to talk to her because i tried a ligature before i went down, things got too much.. but i didnt tell her this. I dont like feeling like a burden. So stressed out. Going for a half hour walk to tesco now too..

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                            • #29
                              Drinking is just making me feel worse tonight..

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                              • #30
                                Hey i hope things get easier soon

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