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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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    So I thought I was well enough to go work. But I didn't last an hour and got called to HR for them to tell me I'm not fit for work. They said i have 4 weeks still of sick note from doctors so they can't have me. And they said i I don't seem well enough and that my supervisor and manger told her I was shaky and dont seem well.
    I was off for depression so I thought it didn't matter what the doctor wrote and what i felt like but turns out I had to go home.
    I think I'm fine. I'm not getting any sick pay and earning no money. My doctors aren't open on weekend so have to take tomorrow off as well. Is it possible to get a fit for work note? Otherwise im getting paid nothing for another month
    The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are

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    I'm not sure but it might be worth getting an appointment on Monday to ask about it?
    "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


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      Thank you for replying! I think I will see my doctors on Monday and ask.
      Just wanted to go work all weekend as a distraction.
      The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are


      • #4
        Hey Shaunie, I'm sorry to hear that your work sent you home and said you were not fit for work. That's good you can see your GP on Monday, they should be able to answer any questions you may have. The Fit For Work website here might be useful to have a look at for expert advice around this. You can also chat online here to a specialist advisor or speak to an advisor on 0800 032 6235.

        Hope that helps, wishing you all the best


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          Thsnk you for your replies. Did get my fit to work note.
          And just came back from work from first day back. I did my return to work and my manger and supervisor was really lovely and nice about it and supportive.
          But when I was working a different manger came up to me (who knew why and that I was off sick from when I rang in) and he was like "haven't seen you in a while" " how was your partying" as a joke like oh yeah off for depression isnt actually being ill. I honestly was so shocked so didn't say much. Just said "what," And he gave me the most dirtiest look ever. Honestly could of fucking slapped that off his face. Cause being locked up in hospital was a real jolly and a right barrel of laughs.
          It's sad that people still have their on owns views on mental health and it's not being a reason to be off sick and work for.
          The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are


          • #6
            Hey Shaunie,

            Really great that your return to work went well with your manager and supervisor, it can make such a difference when people are lovely and supportive. I'm really sorry to hear about the other manager, this really isn't nice for anyone to go through. I think you've touched on a really important point about there still being a lot of stigma around mental health. On the Time To Change website, there's some blog posts from other people who have experienced mental health stigma at work which might be interesting to read.

            Do keep us updated and let us know how things are going with this manager. If you feel you are being treated differently because of your mental health problem this may be discrimination and might be against the law. On the Time To Change website, they have some really useful advice on what to do, I've included some of this information below:

            • Talk to someone you trust
            • If your organisation has an Employee Assistance Programme, consider contacting them (this is an employee benefit programme that helps employees deal with personal and/or work related problems. Their services usually include assessment, short-term counselling and referral services).
            • Find out if your organisation has a mental health policy or one on bullying and harassment
            • Find out more about your rights
            • Take a look at our Get Support Page
            - Aife


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