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    Hey guys, I self harm a lot and it's really troubling and I have nobody to turn to, so I made this topic for all of those who cut or self harm. I'm not one of those attention-seekers, I'm just me. And I need help. I cut on my arms and I used to hide it by wearing long sleeved shirts and jackets. My parents said it was too hot out, and are now making me wear T-Shirts. I've been able to hide it by covering my arm with the other when around them, but I need another way. I don't wear makeup, so that's out of the question too. Please help
    Last edited by JayJay15; 16-03-2017, 01:26 AM.

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    I cut on my arms a lot too if I want to see blood and feel the pain and occasionally if I want to feel a sting I will burn myself too (depends what I want to feel/see to which way I self harm) so I wear long sleeves in the winter but in the summer I wont.
    Hmm there are ways that you can make scars less visable but for the life of me can't think of them😂

    I'm actually proud of my scars it tells me a story. I'm not saying I want scars but I'm saying I'm not going to be sweating my tits off in summer wearing a long sleeve just because I have scars.
    'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'

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    • #3
      I dont self harm by cutting on my arms or legs.But i have done twice. I hate the scars it left but hair bands and a watch is enough to cover it up.
      But you shouldn't feel the need to cover it up. It's shows you are a very strong person but also hurting yet still here and strong.
      Last edited by Shaunie; 16-03-2017, 07:12 PM.
      I dont expect anything - to just end up disappointed. But i do not have zero hope for the future cause that has only dragged me down & brung negativity. I will just not predict the future

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      • #4
        I let it show at school, I don't really care then. But I can't let my family see, that's all. They wouldn't understand. They think the only reason to cut is suicide..they wouldn't understand that I only cut to get rid of emotional pain. They'd take away my pocket knife, razor, my blade, tacks, and pretty much anything sharp. I wouldn't have an outlet for the pain anymore if they found out..

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        • #5
          Hey JayJay15, self harming is a hard topic for both people doing it and parents, hiding it can get pretty taxing in the summer. You may want to tell someone at some stage, maybe not now, but at one point. You can find information about telling someone here

          As for ways to hide it, if theres an activity you do, maybe cycling, football, something that puts you outside, or even arts and crafts, you could tell them you slipped and or had an accident when doing said activity and thats how you got the scares.

          Though it wont help from repeated scaring, it could help for a little bit.



          Just your friendly neighbourhood Moderator ~ Always happy to help

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          • #6
            You can't really hide it I'm afraid, unless you want to wear loads of bands or fake an injury with a bandage or something.

            Embrace it; it's part of you, and I'm gonna merge what Lostsense and Shaunie said; scars tell your story of how strong you are. I'd listen to those two- they sound 'ard. If you were open about your cutting to your parents, you would have them to turn to and could probably get away with long sleeves if they knew. Totally up to you though! I know it's a big decision.

            As someone in a similar situation to you, I hope everything goes well for you, get in touch soon
            No matter how hard it will get
            We will pull always through
            ​Because I'll never forget
            ​It's the human thing to do

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            • #7
              Depends on how much & where you cut really-
              It's easy to hide my scars because there's not many (i cut in the same place everytime) & they're not particularly large (it takes a lot of effort to bleed with the sharpest bit of plastic i can get when i take the part of pen lids that anchors them onto paper off).

              Wristwear - like watches & bracelets can cover up small wounds (a wristwatch usually works for me - doesn't cover the entire cut but it obscures most of it & my family isn't very observant).
              Wristbands and large braclets too.

              I'm pretty sure there's a scar hider/remover type thing you could use, a cream of some kind...and a quick google confirms, yes. I suggest looking in a pharmacy for that - if you have trouble finding any, you can always ask the pharmacist behind the counter if they have any.
              Why didn't you just shout i'm lonely and i'm looking for a place to go ~ Where everything's an embrace and everybody wants to know

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              • #8
                Thanks guys, the replies really help. I think I might try to find some way to tell my parents, or find a cover story for them. (Or just hide them lol) But yea thanks, you give me someone to talk to about it

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                • #9
                  I'm going to take a quote from an expert chat that could be a way to help telling your parents if thats the route you go down, its originally about a relasp but could help you, this is the full article.

                  Nadz: I would suggest maybe writing a letter and slipping it under your parents' door? This allows you to say everything you want without being interrupted and it descending into a row. You could say in the letter you're afraid of it becoming a screaming match and you're really looking for some sympathy and guidance. Also, there is a possibility of bringing someone else into the conversation for moral support, so maybe ask a sibling, friend, teacher, whoever you feel comfortable with, to sit beside you when you confront parents
                  Just your friendly neighbourhood Moderator ~ Always happy to help

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