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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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  • Autism

    A new thread for people to discuss autism, ask questions about it, share experiences of having it or knowing people with it- basically anything autism related. ASD, Asperger's, anything on the spectrum of autism at all.

    There aren't any questions to try to answer at the minute, this is just a place to come to for discussing autism. Any sort of contribution would be highly appreciated 😊

    (Didn't want to make this thread myself, but felt it needed doing)
    Last edited by Aidan; 03-04-2017, 02:41 AM.
    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet

  • #2
    I dont really know much about autism

    But I've heard about the "invisible link between autism and anorexia" and when I was diagnosised with it, I was confused because I didn't see myself as fat just wanted to lose weight and that's what the invisible link says. That they dont see themselves as fat and can sometimes be a way of communicating
    so sometimes I think maybe I have autism and not anorexia or EUPD because In autism it is hard to form stable relastio ships?? Which is what i find and one reason i have EUPD.
    The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are


    • #3
      Hi Shaunie, 🖑
      That's a really interesting point to me; I can't say I've ever heard of this 'invisible link' between anorexia and autism, I'll have to read up on it.

      It can be harder for autistic people to form relationships because of the associated difficulties in communicating and socialising. I've never been in a relationship, and rarely see my friends, but that alone doesn't make me autistic. There's other aspects to autism of course, all of which probably make it harder to understand others and be understood by others- particularly for the autistic mutes.

      Thanks, you've made me think 😊
      "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


      • #4
        Just an update guys,

        I've had my GARS test marked, and i'm likely autistic (level 2) and will be referred for an actual diagnosis at some point. The waiting list is long, I'm told.

        Does anyone know what this means for me?

        Thanks for reading
        "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


        • #5
          I know a fair bit about Autism we thought I had it so I was involved with an Autism service. I know the lady really well. She is a social worker too. I had the assesment and didnt meet the criteria but lovely people to get along with ☺
          'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'


          • #6
            Originally posted by Lostsense View Post
            but lovely people to get along with ☺
            Thanks, sounds promising, but not sure if you meant autistic people or the service people haha
            : )
            "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


            • #7
              Both hehe 😋
              'Why are you trying to fit in be born to stand out'


              • #8
                Well, I guess that's something to look forward to, most people I meet can be incredible unlovely (ive made that a word now), excluding you by the looks of things
                : )
                "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                • #9
                  Autistic people find it difficult to form relationships, due to impaired social skills.

                  People who have BPD/EUPD are usually able to form relationships with no more difficulty than most people. They typically have many volatile, emotional relationships characterised by alternating between idealisation and devaluation. This often involves switching between loving their partner and thinking (s)he's great, to hating him/her. Having many rows and pregnancies is common, as is being a victim and/or perpetrator of domestic violence.

                  Most people who have either condition also have other mental disorders, which complicates matters.
                  Last edited by Robert; 19-04-2017, 09:24 PM.


                  • #10
                    I know about the difficulties forming relationships, thats something thats apparently burdened me for a while. One or two friends, never been romantically involved with anyone, and one of my friends is a dog. But I wouldn't swap it for anything else.
                    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                    • #11
                      Autism is lifelong, so no-one has experienced being autistic and not autistic. Hence it's difficult for autistic people to relate to non-autistic people and vice versa.
                      Last edited by Robert; 19-04-2017, 09:52 PM.


                      • #12
                        I guess that makes sense, it only first dawned on me really in school, and in the chats I had with my counselor that helped me understand why I was different. But I think I nearly understand it now. Thanks for the info so far
                        : )
                        "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                        • #13
                          Even if you're diagnosed with autism, you more likely than not also have other mental disorders, so it's worth find out what they might be as well.

                          Why do so many people hate autistic people? Most autistic people have been victimised a lot, and I don't really understand why. I've never heard anyone say anything positive about autistic people.


                          • #14
                            It's because of stereotypes I reckon. On one end of the spectrum, you have the stereotyped 'running around making funny noises and breaking stuff' (which is fairly inaccurate anyway, that could mean they have anything), and on the other end you have the stereotyped 'extremely intelligent but unempathetic and antisocial' (which makes them sounds sociopathic). People take the generalisations as fact, when I guess they should stop judging others, and also actually meet someone with autism and understand how it affects them alot worse than it does those without it.
                            Last edited by Aidan; 19-04-2017, 10:27 PM.
                            "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                            • #15
                              Most people don't want to know autistic people. When I've heard people talk about autistic people, it's usually to say that the person in question is/was 'a weirdo', 'a dork', 'a loser' etc. Most people's reaction is to avoid them or pick on them. I don't know how that can be changed, when there's such a widespread dislike of autistic people.
                              Last edited by Robert; 19-04-2017, 10:37 PM.


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