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Jellyelephant is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Abi,

Please don't be sorry. Have you ever heard of the phrase "You can't pour from an empty cup"? I feel like this applies here. You need to look after yourself before you can start caring for other people. I know you know all about self care so I won't go on, but try and practise it a little, the way you encourage others to. It's great that you have other skills too, I know music is one of your passions in life and hopefully by studying it that can help you get to where you want to be. Take all the time you need, you don't have to support people in SC all of the time - chat is there to support you too when you are going through difficult times.

Take care of yourself

Jelly x"
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    My names Alicia, I'm 14 and yea parents were divorced when I was 2, and it's only hit me in the recent years, I've been with my boyfriend 1 year and 7 months since I was 13 and he was 15 and due to my parents divorcing I find it hard to trust people, he's been talking to other girls loads and I feel although I don't matter, I also have a borderline personality disorder which contributes to this feeling, we broke up a few times and have had troubles with cheating, last night we had a argument and he left me, I'm so lost he's my world and it's killing me, for the past few months however I've been feeling like I wanna die and that everyone would be happier if I did, [content removed] I miss my boyfriend always and this is killing me, when he talks to the girls I feel so empty and worthless and I try to tell him but he doesn't do anything about it. Now I feel like I have nothing left to live for, I need help please
    Last edited by The Mix; 21-04-2017, 08:33 AM. Reason: Removed a few details

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    Hey Alicia,

    It sounds like youíre going through a really difficult time at the moment, but it was really brave of you to open up about everything youíre going through. It can definitely be hard to cope with divorce no matter how long ago it happened so it totally makes sense you might be having some trust issues. This article on building trust in relationships might be worth a read. It addresses cheating and how to build trust.

    While I canít speak for your boyfriend, it is possible that he needs some time to cool down and think after your fight. Once he has done this, perhaps you can try to sit down and have a conversation about how you want the relationship to continue (talk about specific things like staying committed to one another (if thatís important to you), trusting each other, and how you feel worthless/suicidal). If youíre able to (and want to) have this conversation with him, some people find it helpful to write a letter or list about what you want to say in advance.

    In terms of your mental health, if you ever feel unsafe, you can get in touch with Childline and/or Papyrus for suicide crisis support. Both of these services have people you can talk to in order to get through intense feelings.

    Like I said, itís really great of you to reach out for help to this community. If youíd like to, please feel free to keep posting about how everything goes/ how youíre doing.

    How are you getting on today? Wishing you the best!

    - Mica


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