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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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Anorexic and Pregnant:

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  • Anorexic and Pregnant:

    So on my recent post it shows that I'm pregnant again due to unfortunate situation that happened just over 5 weeks ago. Also back in March I was diagnosed with being anorexic.

    ​Anyway I'm in a dilemma because next Saturday my Brownie leader has asked me to attend an event with some of the Brownies where there is going to be food and I have a problem with eating food in public due to being anorexic as eating too much makes me feel sick. I don't know what to do because the Brownie leader iis unaware about me being anorexic so she probably will expect me to eat like everyone else but at the same time I cant tell her.
    Also by time it gets to next week my bump is likely to become noticeable and I'm worried that the Brownie leader will say something. I cant tell her about being pregnant because she will then ask questions and I cant tell her how its happened ect. I'm gonna try and hide the bump with wearing baggy clothing in the hope she wont notice anything is different. I'm worried she will say something cause in the past she has said about my weight.

    Need advice

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    Hey Laura,

    I think wearing baggy clothes is a good idea! I know you're still in two minds about the baby, so take your time to make a choice that is right for you.

    Anorexia isn't good for you or the baby
    It'll take a while to overcome it, but I'm sure you can!

    There's some stuff online, and plenty of self help books, try everything and see what works for you. About this do with the brownies, could you say you've eaten before you went there, and then only eat a little while you're there? Does that sound good?

    I'm always here for you Laura, I just stopped contacting you outside the mix because of my own circumstances right now, sorry about that
    Tough times never last, but tough people do


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      Hi Aidan. Thanks for the reply. Yeah I will wear baggy clothing for the time being. Yeah I am in 2 minds about the child still and I know I need to take time to think about the right thing to do but at the same time the earlier I have abortion if that is what I decide the easier it is. Yeah being anorexic is hard and I know it's not gonna be good for the baby. I'm trying to get through it but it's not easy and I know it's bad because of what I've been through before. I'll have a look at the stuff online thanks. Yeah that sounds a good idea for the Brownie thing thanks. Thanks for saying you are always here for me. I am always here for you too


      • #4
        Hi Lura sorry to hear this, how would you feel about saying you don't feel like eating as you ate before you came out? Or prehaps say you have a bit of stomachache?

        I think wearing baggy clothes is a good idea like Aidan said it good to have a think about what you would like to do before making any sudden decisions.


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          Hi One in a million. Thanks for the reply. Yeah I'm gonna have to say something like that as I really can't eat in public. Yeh I'm gonna wear baggy clothes in the hope she doesn't notice. Yeh I will have a think about the decision I'm going to make


          • #6
            Just remember the dessison is totally yours don't let anyone persuade you to think ine option is better than the other because only you can decide what is best.


            • #7
              Hi one in a million. Yeh I will think about the decision and make sure it's my choice. Replying to my PM when u can


              • #8
                That's good to hear and I will do hun


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