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Stepfinder App Testing

We've just released our new StepFinder app and it's now available on Android devices. We'd love some help testing it out to hear your feedback before it's released to the public.

Date: Tuesday 24th April 2018 from 6.30pm to 8pm

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Vanilla Survey Results

It's been a few months since we announced our exciting move to the new boards software Vanilla.

Back in February, we asked you to complete a survey so we could hear what you thought about some potential features and changes that Vanilla can offer. We also sent this survey out to our boards volunteers.

You can read all about the results here
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Post of The Month

Shaunie is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Novocaine

This sounds really difficuly and scary. Sorry youre going through such a hard time im glad youre getting some sort of help. Experimental therapies sounds good. I hope youre taking good care of yourself aswell and doing things you enjoy and doing small things that could make you feel better like nice relaxing bath.

Mindfullness and grounding technics can be really helpful. In times where i felt disassociated i would be vaguely suggested to stay midful and present in the here and now. Which can help your concentration aswell. Like even picking up something around you & noticing how that feels & what is around you helps to be less in a dream state of mind. Loking at everything in details & concetrating on your breathing. I know its quite hard to rememeber to do in times of high anxiety but it doesnt need to just be when you get to that point. Can be any time of the day just to help you feel better and get in rountine of doing it & remembering

Its also okay to not know what you want to do after school. Even people who seem to know what they want - end up not wanting it and alll can take some time to know and feel better and that is okay too, youre on your own lil journey. But there is always hope

Take care"
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    Lately I have been feeling really down about the way I look. I have been called fat and fat head a few times in my lifetime even though I'm at a healthy weight. I can fit into size 8-10 clothes but all I see if fat and I always cover up when I go out no matter how hot the weather. I still see my ex-friend who turned nasty with me because it was obvious her sister had a problem with me / always stared at me. They got so nasty police had to be involved. She lives not far from me, she has slimmed down and I sat eating alot at home for a while for comfort. I stopped that now in the hope of slimming a little. But, I'm so emotional all the time. I worry that I may bump into her and she sees how bad I look. Fear of maybe her and her sister calling me fatty or tramp?I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm just hoping someone had some advice or support for me? I cant help but feel down. Wish i could move from this area but can't afford to. I'm genuinely suffering right now 😔
    Last edited by Kathleen; 27-06-2017, 05:24 PM.

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    Hey Stars2, sounds like you're having a pretty rough time in regards to how you feel / your weight. I personally feel the people saying this are just out to hurt you rather then anything being wrong with you.

    A good piece, although very generic answer, is to ignore them.

    You could also check out this article:
    http://www.themix.org.uk/mental-heal...teem-5941.html

    My hobby is bot busting ^_^

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    • #3
      Also think there's nothing wrong with you. If you're healthy weight and you are personally happy with that, then that's okay. And she just probably has her insecurities herself especially if she has slimmed. I'm sorry some peole people can be horrible some people will judge but it's not their judgement that matters. It's you and how you feel. And if you feel like you want to be that little bit healthier by not eating a lot in comft. Then that's okay in a healthy manner but just dont do it because someone called you fat when you're already healthy and dont let that distort your mind. Ignore them if you se them again. They clearly need some thing better to do with their lives.
      "Recovery is my best revenge" - Carolyn Spring "Let your past make you better not bitter" - Unknown

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      • #4
        Hey Stars2,

        Hope you're doing okay! Unfortunately when people insult you by targeting things which you're already insecure about it can affect you probably worse than things which weren't insecurities to begin with! Often people who insult others are in turn trying to build their own self-esteem. People deal with their own insecurities often by making fun of others (which is not okay). Everyone is good just the way they are (including you!) and the world would be a very boring place if we all looked exactly the same! Everyone is unique in their own way (literally, biologically) and we all have more or less flesh here and there which is perfectly normal! As long as you are healthy that is all that matters! If you feel you would like to become healthier and maybe start eating cleaner or exercising more, then that is a perfectly healthy way of thinking! And similarly, if you don't that's also okay Try your best not to put too much pressure on yourself and your body even though it is so hard because we often tend to be our worst critics, and the media isn't helping with all of these body 'expectations'. You are also young and bodies change all the time, but your personality never does so keep being your great self

        As hard as it is, try to ignore people who bring negativity into your life and remind yourself that people who put you down only make themselves look bad, and not you. As someone has already mentioned, they usually do this for their own benefit and most likely do not mean it

        Hope this helped and have a great day!

        Drea

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        • #5
          Hey Stars2 just checking in, how are things going?
          My hobby is bot busting ^_^

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          • #6
            Things were going good until I decided to block the person who had been horrible to me. Only I actually poked her so I deactivated my account straight away. Now I have to wait til early hours of the morning to delete that poke permanently without her knowing. But I'm worried she may have seen it. Please help! 😣

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            • #7
              Hi Stars2,

              I'm not exactly a computers expert, so I can't tell you whether or not this girl will see your poke. You say this person has been horrible to you in the past, and it seems like that's why your so anxious about her seeing this. That makes sense, and unfortunately we rarely have control over the reactions of other people. She can choose to acknowledge that poke or not, and once you've blocked her you may never have to deal with her online again. This is coming a bit later, so you may have taken care of it already. Were you able to delete the poke?

              -Kathleen

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              • #8
                Hi

                I managed to delete it straight away.
                And then block her
                Im having a bad day today. Headache -maybe from all the stress and feeling run down.
                Want to sit home alone and cry.

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                • #9
                  Hey Stars2,

                  How are you feeling today?

                  Drea

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                  • #10
                    Everytime I see them, I start to feel numb, breathless, shaky and heart racing. Calmed down a littlw when I got home but I am still feel symptoms after an hour and half can't get in doctors because they're always busy

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                    • #11
                      Hi Stars,

                      It sounds like this person is making you quite anxious. Is it possible to avoid them, as they clearly affect your life negatively? I'm obviously not a doctor, so I can't say for certain, but it sounds like you may be having a panic attack. This article has some more information on panic attacks, and may help you figure out if that's what happened, which could be helpful for when you get the chance to see a doctor.

                      Hope this was helpful,
                      Kathleen

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                      • #12
                        I already started leaving my house at an earlier time than usual to get to work. Unfortunately she's started to leave her house earlier so I'm wondering if she's doing on it purpose. Either way, I'll have to be brave for now until I can find a way to move area.

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                        • #13
                          It is having quite a negative effect on my life

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