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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you don’t already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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Spiralling out of control

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    I don't know whats wrong with me. I feel down every day, I don't want to interact with anyone and I spend my days in the corner of the school library, I have great friends who I love to pieces but social interaction just doesn't interest me anymore to such a degree that I am dreading spending time with people and have to constantly force a smile on my face - I just can't seem to cheer myself up. I am constantly exhausted and I feel drained both physically and mentally yet when I try to go to sleep nothing happens, hence why I am writing this at 1am. I find myself getting very angry or tearful at the smallest things and I find myself in fits of hysteria most days when I get home from school. I just feel like there is no point o my existence anymore and I hate myself for it.
    Does anyone know whats wrong with me? I feel like I am complaining which is why I don't feel that I can say any of this to friends or family. Is this something I need to go to a doctor for. Please someone help me I feel like I am losing all control over my life and I don't know how to fix it.

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    Its definetly something to go see your doctor about it, especally if its affecting your day to day life, so they could see if theres a reason so they can give a diagnosis and maybe treatment to help. Im sure you know - but we cant say whats wrong and only doctors can give diagnosis. I feel this way and i have depression and emtionally unstable personality disorder. And for some just knowing whats wrong can help.
    Last edited by Shaunie; 17-09-2017, 02:49 AM.
    "Recovery is my best revenge" - Carolyn Spring "Let your past make you better not bitter" - Unknown


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      Hey there, welcome to the boards.

      As Shaunie said, it's definitely something worth seeing a doctor about. They will probably be able to tell you what's wrong (if anything) and recommend some sort of support for you.

      I just wanted to point out as well, that you've done amazingly to post on here. It can be really hard to open up and you've been very brave in doing so!

      Take care,

      - Eleanor
      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)


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        Hi Lily,

        Thanks for sharing on the boards, you never need to feel like you’re complaining we’re all here to help and listen to your concerns. It sounds as if you’ve been going through a tough time recently but do not fear, these feelings will soon pass - like a rain cloud does to reveal the sunshine, even if it takes some work in figuring out why you may be feeling this way. Have you experienced these feelings before? As Shaunie mentioned only a doctor will be able to diagnose, and it sounds as if you would benefit from speaking to a doctor and seeing what they can do for you.

        In the meantime, when you get back from school is there something you enjoy doing which can help to put your mind at ease, perhaps listening to your favourite music, taking a walk, colouring or watching your favourite shows? It’s okay to not feel ‘okay’ and I know sometimes we can stress over not feeling 100% ourselves but just try not to focus on the ‘why’ and just allow yourself to feel – I think when we try to analyse our feelings too much it can be too difficult for our minds and we end up getting even more worked up! So try to relax as much as possible – have a cuppa, get cosy on the sofa and try out the methods I suggested above.

        When I am feeling this way what works for me is to listen to a chill mix, earphones in, my mind, body and soul taken away with the music and take a long walk in the great outdoors, is there anywhere near you where you could go to clear your head? Can you think of any methods you could try or what may have worked for you in the past?

        If you are struggling again then remember we’re always here on The Mix to offer support.

        Take Care,

        - Sunny
        Last edited by SunshineSoul; 20-09-2017, 06:42 PM.


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