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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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  • Losing everything

    Starting to feel like I'm just losing everything. My support system gets stripped away from me because of one slight freak out. My friends barely talk to me anymore. I barely leave my room unless it's for uni related things. Don't even go out to socialize. I've been in bed all day so far today just questioning where I keep going wrong. Why don't I have understanding of my emotions yet other people think they understand me. How is that possible when I don't understand myself?
    I'm tired of reaching out and not being properly heard. I'm tired of things getting to crisis point before anyone bothers to care. Doesn't matter what I say or for how long, nothing ever changes.
    I'm so exhausted. I feel so alone and now feel more isolated than ever.

    I'm stressed out, really stressed out with aspects of my life. I'm anxious and worried because Christmas is fast approaching which marks one year since my nan passed away. I'm also still struggling with the abortion I had back in may. Im stressed out with academic pressures. I feel like the only thing I have control of is what to eat and drink, well lack of it.
    I just feel so abandoned and like there isn't any point in speaking up anymore because the support will just get taken away. Ive been made to feel like I'm better off bottling up and like I don't matter. Like how I feel, my emotions and how isolated I've been made to feel, doesn't matter.
    I've been made to feel like I just don't matter anymore. I've been made to feel like I shouldn't have a voice and I don't have a right to share how I feel.
    I've been abandoned of support and it just shows me that people who say they are concerned or care.. actually lied.

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    Hi Meggles

    I'm sorry to hear that things are tough for you right now. Have you thought of talking to mental health charity's such as mind? To see if they could offer some offline support in your area.

    As with your thoughts and feelings, it can be difficult to regulate them sometimes to keep your feelings to a level that you can manage the rest of your life. I would suggest that you try to practice self care more as no one else can do this for you. And be really really proactive in asking for support offline if you feel like people aren't listening.

    You have a lot to offer the world, so it's worth you keeping on fighting and taking care of yourself.

    Turtle

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    • #3
      .sorry
      Last edited by turtle09; 06-10-2017, 08:11 AM. Reason: Double post sorry!

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      • #4
        Hey Meggles!

        Iím sorry to hear you feel abandoned and isolated! Being in uni is a stressful time altogether and itís so easy to feel alone when youíre away at school. Thereís a saying in America about being ďa little fish in a big pond,Ē because there are so many people at school so itís easy to feel left out!

        Have you tried talking to a counsellor at school? I know you said it feels like your support systems get stripped away from you, maybe you can try contacting a counsellor to set up regular visits (monthly, weekly, etc) to build a support relationship. Sometimes talking to a school counsellor (rather than an out-of-school counsellor) is really helpful because they understand the everyday struggles of the student, like dealing with schoolwork, friends, social activities, etc.

        The Mix has a great article on loneliness, and it talks all about coping ideas and signposts to Mind, which offers advice and support to people with mental health problems. Their helpline runs nine to six from Monday to Friday and you can call them at 0300 123 3393.

        Overall, youíre feelings are justified and youíre allowed to feel however you want (even if people tell you otherwise!)

        I hope this helped!

        Vidhya @The Mix

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        • #5
          Thanks for replies both.
          I had a counsellor before I left for uni and I've tried to email her but not had any responses so i gave up.
          I think the problem is that I've been left feeling so abandoned when reaching for support in the past and for general reasons too. It's put me off wanting to reach out anymore.
          The past few days I've just been bottling up and it's so so hard but I feel like I don't have a choice anymore

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          • #6
            Do you know what hurts the most? Being left abandoned by those you thought cared...

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            • #7
              hi meggles,

              I can understand that its hard to feeling let down.
              Have you thought about starting with self care to help yourself out, if its hard to get support but that is something that you can work on without too much input from other people. hopefully that will help you feel less abandoned as it will just be something you can do for yourself.

              all the best

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              • #8
                Hey Meggles!

                That sounds frustrating that the counsellor didn't respond It's great that you're using the discussion boards to talk everything out, because bottling your feelings up can be a very isolating experience. You're very strong to speak out, it takes a lot to realize when you need to turn to somebody!

                Have you tried calling a helpline? Most helplines offer one to one support, and it might be helpful to explain your situation to someone to talk things through. Mind has a great helpline that offers information/advice/support if you're feeling lonely and anxious. You can call them 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays) at 0300 123 3393.

                Alternatively, I think turtle09 gave a great point about self-care! Sometimes when I'm anxious, I'll go for a run or walk and it helps me clear my head, so I'm not thinking about a million things all at the same time. Do you have any things you already do when you're feeling anxious/nervous. Some people find it helpful to just take a step away from whatever they are doing and do something they like (for example, watching some television, taking a long bath, etc.)

                I hope this helped!

                Vidhya @The Mix

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                • #9
                  I can't care much about self care. I push it on everyone else and ignore it myself because I feel I don't deserve it.
                  Tbh I just feel so fed up and I just wanna crawl into a dark corner and left to die.

                  It's just never ending...

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                  • #10
                    Hey Meggles,

                    really sorry to hear you're feeling this way... Have you tried doing something you now you enjoy? Like maybe watch a movie, hang out with someone, even attend some exercise classes or partake in a society or a sport? Sometimes these things can help! You always have us regardless I agree with what vidhya said, it may be good to contact some places that you could to talk to just to assist you with how you're feeling from people who have more expertise!

                    Have a great day

                    Drea

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                    • #11
                      I don't even want to get out of bed anymore

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                      • #12
                        Hi Meggles,

                        Sounds like your finding things hard at the moment. Sometimes even when we don't want to get out of bed we can actually feel better after we have. Have you felt this way at all?

                        How are you feeling at the moment?

                        Rayofhope
                        You're much stronger than you think you are. Trust me. - superman.

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                        • #13
                          I need my mum.
                          I can't do this anymore. I want to go home to my mum.

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