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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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    Sorry to bother you all with this ... I never normally would but I can't keep continuing knowing that I am lying to you all.

    ​So since probably the middle of October, I started to get just to find I was struggling because of things from my passed. I know we are all fighting are own mini battles everyday and my mini battles feel like they will never end or if it does end there is no happy ending. For the pasted 16 years of my life I have never known who I was. All I know is I am Abi. Every person is put on this world for a purpose (Not to be a failure) I feel like my role is just to help others and its not what I want. Ever since I was younger people always told my parents 'Your Abi is really supportive and helpful' not 'Oh your Abi is amazing a music' It does annoy me because people have sort of written me off and said she is good at one thing and that's it.

    ​Being supportive is a really nice skill to have is really lovely but it takes so much out of me. I am only 16 I have a lot of responsibility and not having that space where people tell me I am only good at one thing is horrible and its ridicules how many times people say to me I didn't think you could do that.

    ​I know I am really supportive on her but I think some of the mods will back me up here ... I need to take a break and look after myself first ... No this doesn't mean I am leaving you all for a while ... it just means I am not going to be as 'full on' with thing. That means I will be quitter in SC and chatting in GC.

    ​Sorry if I have let anyone down.


    Abi
    I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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    Hey Abi,

    You haven't let anyone down! It's okay to not be okay, and we all go through struggles here and there. Take the time that you feel you need. No judgments anywhere! Thank you so much for all your help. We will all stay in touch on here I'm sure, even if it is as frequent as it usually is. Hope you feel better, and remember we're always here if you need to talk

    Have a great day <3

    Drea

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    • #3
      Aww Abi! Sorry to hear you feel like this. Please look after yourself and take as much time as you need

      You havenít let anyone down! You know where I am if you need to talk?

      Esme xx
      Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations

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      • #4
        Hey Abi,

        As the others have said you're letting no one down. It's ok to take that time to yourself - take as much time as you need.

        Same goes here - here if you ever need a chat!

        Eleanor
        "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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        • #5
          Hey Abi,

          Please don't be sorry. Have you ever heard of the phrase "You can't pour from an empty cup"? I feel like this applies here. You need to look after yourself before you can start caring for other people. I know you know all about self care so I won't go on, but try and practise it a little, the way you encourage others to. It's great that you have other skills too, I know music is one of your passions in life and hopefully by studying it that can help you get to where you want to be. Take all the time you need, you don't have to support people in SC all of the time - chat is there to support you too when you are going through difficult times.

          Take care of yourself
          Jelly x

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          • #6
            Hi
            ​I have told myself that this month I am going to really focus on myself and get myself into a routine including self-care morning and night and see if it does help in anyway.

            ​@jellyelephant - That's quote is one that I know very well sadly. I never listen to my body do I? I won't be as full on in SC chats this month and if I am doing the odd night here and there but I won't be the Abi everybody is used to but that's alright because there is multiple sides to everyone. mine is just hard to see as I never show you the true me.

            independent_ - I will be ... got any room in GC for so Abi? :P No I will try my best and I will keep talking to you all and if after the new year I am still not great I might go and speak to my doctor. Thank you!

            Esme17 - I will try my best to and thank you!

            ​@Drea - Thank you. I will keep posting and talking to people on here and to people in college as well.

            ​Speak soon

            ​Abi
            I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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            • #7
              That sounds like a plan Abi! Lots of self-care - sounds like it's most needed!
              "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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              • #8
                Feel like i should just walk out of practice and not come back.
                I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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                • #9
                  Hello Abigail, I'm new here but sounds like things are difficult Self soothe is a good idea or mindfulness? Hope things improve soon.

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                  • #10
                    Update - I am still feeling quite how to put it shitty at the moment. I really don't know why I feel this bad. On Thursday my tutor kept saying to me my work is really good and I should be proud of the work I am doing but I really just can't see how it good. Within college pressure does get put on your shoulders mine comes in the form of caring, college work and wanting to prove myself to be better than my brother and show people that I am not my brothers sister I am actually someone different.

                    ​Tomorrow (Monday) I will speak to my 1-2-1 tutor and ask her if everything I am doing is correct and the comments I am reserving are correct and its not just to make me feel better.

                    ​Am I still doing the right thing my dropping back and looking after myself because to me I don't feel like I am? I feel useless!

                    Sorry
                    I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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                    • #11
                      You are not useless. And yes you're doing the right thing by looking after yourself!
                      "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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                      • #12
                        As others have said, you are not useless and I'm glad you're reaching out to your tutor.

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                        • #13
                          I ended up speaking to my 1-2-1 tutor today and told her about the comments and she weirdly did agree with it. I have sound my voice this year and I am using it to voice my own opinions about the course I am on and now just waiting for the long response.

                          ​I am meeting up with my personal tutor on Wednesday to talk about my course, I really don't know if I am doing the right thing telling them I am finding it to easy or if not. HELP!!
                          Hope your all doing well
                          I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Abigail View Post
                            I ended up speaking to my 1-2-1 tutor today and told her about the comments and she weirdly did agree with it. I have sound my voice this year and I am using it to voice my own opinions about the course I am on and now just waiting for the long response.

                            ​I am meeting up with my personal tutor on Wednesday to talk about my course, I really don't know if I am doing the right thing telling them I am finding it to easy or if not. HELP!!
                            Hope your all doing well

                            Well done for speaking to your tutor. I bet it was hard to speak to your tutor. Well done for voicing your opinions. I definitely think you did the right thing, especially if she agrees with you. x

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                            • #15
                              Meeting tomorrow and I am so nervous but I don't know why. Really hope I don't regret this now!
                              I am human, I fight through the pain to allow the ones I love to continue to live a fulfilling life.

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