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Support Circles on Sundays

Hey everyone,

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on 26 November. If you'd like to come along, (sign up by completing the form here )
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As soon as we fix this issue, we'll announce another date for launching. We're really sorry for the delay in Chatwee, thanks so much for your patience.
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Post of The Month (September)

Maisy is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Shaunie,

​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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  • Is this something to be embarrassed about?

    So, one thing that I will never fully understand is this feeling of embarrassment when I want to talk about anything to do with my mental health. Maybe it's because people perceive those with mental health as 'crazy people' or people they can't control? Or maybe I feel like I'm just being an attention-seeker and really I'm just hormonal?

    It drives me insane not being able to speak to anybody about the problems I have been facing. So I thought I would turn to this... writing a post about it... so maybe other people could relate to how I'm feeling. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to WANT to speak to you and listen to your problems rather than being so judgemental. Why do people think that those with mental health issues keep things bottled up for so long? Because we're afraid of the consequences of telling you! Afraid to be pushed into a corner and forced to go and get 'help' when we're not ready to... afraid to finally open up about something and feel so vulnerable..

    I've been suffering since the age of 14, and I'm 21 now. I've never really come to terms with what I have until recently. I decided to accept the fact that I'm not just 'sad' or 'stressed' all the time, it's something more. When I was 13, my uncle passed away. He was the light of my life. And from that point on everything went downhill. Members of my family suffered from depression because of it and I eventually felt like I didn't want to burden them with my problems because everyone else was dealing with their own..

    It's still so hard right now to think about who I should turn to about these issues I'm facing, who to trust, who I should really open up to. But I thought maybe this post would encourage others to be brave, be open and be proud of who they are and how much they have had to go through, like me.

    If anyone wants to message about any issues I've written above.. please feel free to message me. I'd love to just have a conversation without people judging me for who I am..

    - Lizzie x

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    i dont think you need to be embarrassed about it and i can understand how youre feeling, i cant really relate to what youre going through but i think that the pain of what we suffer is still the same bc to you this is the most painful thing youve had to deal with and with me im dealing with a different pain but its the same to me bc its the most painful thing ive felt. i guess what im trying to say is that we have different pains but the intensity is the same so no... dont be embarrassed or feel you will be judged. most everyone here will only want to help from what ive seen. im new too so its new to me but i feel much better than i did before so i guess it helps to talk about things. hugs

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    • #3
      Originally posted by girlinpain View Post
      i dont think you need to be embarrassed about it and i can understand how youre feeling, i cant really relate to what youre going through but i think that the pain of what we suffer is still the same bc to you this is the most painful thing youve had to deal with and with me im dealing with a different pain but its the same to me bc its the most painful thing ive felt. i guess what im trying to say is that we have different pains but the intensity is the same so no... dont be embarrassed or feel you will be judged. most everyone here will only want to help from what ive seen. im new too so its new to me but i feel much better than i did before so i guess it helps to talk about things. hugs
      thank you so much. It's lovely to hear those words. Sending love back x

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      • #4
        youre welcome and im so sorry that you are dealing with this. im glad that ive been able to help in some small way if only to tell you that youre not alone. its not much but its what i have rn.... <3

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        • #5
          Originally posted by girlinpain View Post
          youre welcome and im so sorry that you are dealing with this. im glad that ive been able to help in some small way if only to tell you that youre not alone. its not much but its what i have rn.... <3
          And that same goes to you. We may be strangers but we can always relate to the same things/feelings at some point. Please message me if you ever need someone to talk to x

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          • #6
            i will and the youre welcome to message me too. im mckenna btw

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            • #7
              Hey hlizzie1 ,

              Welcome to the boards. I'm Eleanor, 14, it's nice to meet you and I think you've been exceptionally brave in writing this and opening up to us - absolutely no need to be embarrassed as I know from experience that judgement is never a problem on here 😊

              I say that, but I can relate to you with the embarrassment too with people I know. It's like when you talk to people they wonder why you didn't talk to them sooner - 'no, I didn't talk sooner because I was scared of your reaction.'

              Definitely feel free to post if you ever need any support. The Mix has chats too for the 13-25s on Sundays-Thursdays from 8-9.30pm - to both get support and for general chit chat! I find those a great place as well.

              Take care,

              - Eleanor x
              "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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              • #8
                Originally posted by independent_ View Post
                Hey hlizzie1 ,

                Welcome to the boards. I'm Eleanor, 14, it's nice to meet you and I think you've been exceptionally brave in writing this and opening up to us - absolutely no need to be embarrassed as I know from experience that judgement is never a problem on here 😊

                I say that, but I can relate to you with the embarrassment too with people I know. It's like when you talk to people they wonder why you didn't talk to them sooner - 'no, I didn't talk sooner because I was scared of your reaction.'

                Definitely feel free to post if you ever need any support. The Mix has chats too for the 13-25s on Sundays-Thursdays from 8-9.30pm - to both get support and for general chit chat! I find those a great place as well.

                Take care,

                - Eleanor x
                Thank you Eleanor. I appreciate youíre response and understanding and for a warm welcome. Hopefully we shall speak more soon! ❤️

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by hlizzie1 View Post

                  Thank you Eleanor. I appreciate you’re response and understanding and for a warm welcome. Hopefully we shall speak more soon! ❤️
                  It's not a problem. I hope so too😊😊
                  "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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                  • #10
                    I love the support on here💜
                    Please never feel embarrassed to speak about how youre feeling. Youre only human. EVERYONE has their own struggles and are battling somethin, whether it is big or small. May not even see people are struggling but its all real and deserve to be listen to if wanted . Youre never alone, cause someone will always be wanting to listen at anytime you do want to speak about it, whether thats someone you know or a crisis line, where a stranger is waiting and wanting to help you.
                    I dont expect anything - to just end up disappointed. But i do not have zero hope for the future cause that has only dragged me down & brung negativity. I will just not predict the future

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Shaunie View Post
                      I love the support on here💜
                      Please never feel embarrassed to speak about how youre feeling. Youre only human. EVERYONE has their own struggles and are battling somethin, whether it is big or small. May not even see people are struggling but its all real and deserve to be listen to if wanted . Youre never alone, cause someone will always be wanting to listen at anytime you do want to speak about it, whether thats someone you know or a crisis line, where a stranger is waiting and wanting to help you.
                      I know itís so nice isnít it - I hope youíre well as Iíve been in the group chat 2 nights in a row whilst youíre in it and tried to help you out - but yeah I totally get what youíre saying itís just hard to know who to trust because everyone treats you like glass that will be broken if they slip up and say something they shouldnít! Thanks for you words tho 🧡

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                      • #12
                        I think as someone with mental health problems and as someone who talks openly about my depression and anxiety in the media on TV and radio etc. I feel strongly that we can have am equal conversation about our physical and mental health. I'm sure we would talk to people about our broken leg to family and friends but when it comes to.an invisible illness then we all tend to shy away. What I am trying to say is that everyone has mental health and sometimes it gets sick, talking about it really does help.
                        'Mental health is not a not a destination but a process. It's about how you drive and not where you're going'

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