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On Wednesday 13th December from 7-8pm we'll be hosting a Christmas Quiz live in The Mix chat room with loads of great prizes

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Post of The Month

Esme17 is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey. Hope you are doing okay?

I completely understand what you mean about feeling low mainly at night. like you said, It is probably because you have nothing else you need to be doing then and so have more time to think. Is there anything you could do that makes you feel slightly happier during this time (watch a film, read etc..)?

Do you know what is making you feel this way? I know you mentioned losing your nan which must have been really hard for you and Iím very sorry to hear that!

Iím not too sure what would be best for you to do in the situation but i would say it would be best to speak to someone like your gp because they could tell you for sure if it does need looking into more and even if it didnít, it would put your mind at rest a bit? I know how hard it can be seeing someone though so just make sure you do what feels right for you.

Remember you can also always come to the board to get support and to chats as well.

Let us know how things go? Iím sorry if this didnít help at all, I think I rambled a bit but I tried...

Esme x"
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Support Circles on Sundays

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on the 17th of December. If you'd like to come along, feel free to sign-up closer to the time (when we post the thread for it).
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Fed up & confused, - not trying hard enough or trying to hard ???

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  • Fed up & confused, - not trying hard enough or trying to hard ???

    Im so confused if i just sit in self pitty, playing victim to depression and dont try hard enough to feel better or what. Like health professionals tell me "you dont try hard enough" but somedays i feel so depressed & unable to get out of bed and feels so disabling. But cause somedays i do stay in bed they say i dont try hard enough & cause im not doing that much with my life i am not trying hard enough and basically say should expect to feel depressed & basically my own fault. But everything feels so pointless & empty.

    For then health professionals to tell me later on i am trying to hard - which is why i feel so depressed and need to let the feelings pass and accept them, instead of trying to not feel like that and more i try to fight it the more depressed ill feel. When i do not try i stay in bed and just allow myself to feel depressed but then thats not trying . Idek im making sense.

    Then say they wont help me. I dont think i can find the inbetween without help. But i am still alive and to me that is 'trying' when i feel so so suicidal. But feel so fed up that i want to give up. They say only i can help myself..well then i do not see a way out cause i dont know how to live life and think some people are just not cut out for life.

    Pretty stuck with what they say. Wtf am i suppose to do. Just not try at all & give up & die
    Last edited by Shaunie; 06-12-2017, 04:23 PM.
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    Hey Shaunie ,

    I really don't get health professionals sometimes, I have no experience with anything but helpful ones (and that was years ago) but I just don't get it.

    I don't know the psychology around this, but I just wanted to say that I picked up on the part of your post about you still being alive and that is you trying. Of course it is! And I'm proud of you for that!

    Remember - baby steps. You can't run before you can walk!
    "Truely independent person who doesn't do quotes, just dates".. (29.04.17)

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      Thank you independent!💜
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        Hi Shaunie

        I haven't had the greatest relationship with my healthcare professionals in Majorca, and had to come off antidepressants because my parents saw the vicious side effects of the meds. I even walked out on my last therapist. She unearthed memories I was against recalling. On hearing my terrible distress, my partner Dixie marched in and took me away.

        I've never told anyone here of my past, but won't share details. Except I owe much my father for motivating me to exercise. Exercise releases feel good endorphins he said, so instead of severely grounding me that irate parents usually do to their boozing drug smoking potty-mouthed 13 year olds, he made me run up and down the stairs in our villa. 20 times. Having burnt the marijuana plants he discovered I was growing in our greenhouse and emptied my booze cupboard I'd snitched from his, next day he had me running up and the stairs - OMGZ 30 times! When I swore at him, he turned off the air conditioning and forced me up and down those bloody stairs like a drill sergeant. He kept on and on and on at me til I was near-demented.

        Dad made me exercise for a whole month. Up and down, up and down those frickin' stairs. Grudgingly I admitted Dad's relentless exercise regime was actually doing me good. It certainly increased my cardio!! And still no antidepressants.

        Now, I'm not going to recommend you do that, but if you can motivate yourself. Go walking. Walking (and swimming) is the best exercise around and I guarantee from the first time you'll begin feeling better. I've read some of your sharings and in your last post, that you really want to help yourself. I think that's great and I'm proud of you! Great also because you genuinely are really trying even if it's little things.

        When I began feeling better - so my motivation increased.

        As Eleanor rightly said 'take baby steps', I suggest start exercising because it will help you far more than you realise. Fact is, you want to help yourself, yeah? Okay you may feel very rough at times, but I believe that nothing is impossible if we really want to help ourselves.

        The next year I met Dixie. Together with Dad she became my mentor. Gradually I began noticing a difference. Fact was, exercise was already making a big difference to my life. Five years later to this day, I can say from looking back, it was a struggle to beat my depression. But it wasn't impossible.

        Two years ago Dad deserted us. His marriage to Mum broke down. Where he is, we don't know. But I owe it to him for being tough on me. And it worked.
        The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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          Hey princesa
          Thank you v much for sharing & help💜.im glad exercising helps you. I do exercise a bit but its mode to lose weight which probably takes the fun out of it so will try and do it to feel better
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            Originally posted by Shaunie View Post
            Hey princesa
            Thank you v much for sharing & help💜.im glad exercising helps you. I do exercise a bit but its mode to lose weight which probably takes the fun out of it so will try and do it to feel better
            Hi Shaunie

            I've been looking into Isometric exercises for Mum. Because of her condition. Wanting to make exercises less mundane for her, and possibly for you, I poked around on google and found this helpful site called Active:

            https://www.active.com/fitness/artic...workout?page=1 It describes isometric exercise very well using helpful visual detail in addition to informative text.

            This mode of exercise looks interesting. Mum has a phone and I've a Kindle, so downloading this reduced price ebook to £2.37 looks like a bargain.

            https://www.amazon.co.uk/Isometric-E...etric+exercise

            So that's another option.

            This weekend I'm going home to Majorca, but I look forward to hearing back from you sometime.

            Have a nice weekend yourself, too.

            Julie
            The greatest female power is empathy to create relationships on a personal level. It's better for a woman to come across as more nurturing, more warm, and that is going to lend more success to her than for a man doing the same thing.

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