Essential support for under 25s


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Post of The Month

Esme17 is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey. Hope you are doing okay?

I completely understand what you mean about feeling low mainly at night. like you said, It is probably because you have nothing else you need to be doing then and so have more time to think. Is there anything you could do that makes you feel slightly happier during this time (watch a film, read etc..)?

Do you know what is making you feel this way? I know you mentioned losing your nan which must have been really hard for you and Iím very sorry to hear that!

Iím not too sure what would be best for you to do in the situation but i would say it would be best to speak to someone like your gp because they could tell you for sure if it does need looking into more and even if it didnít, it would put your mind at rest a bit? I know how hard it can be seeing someone though so just make sure you do what feels right for you.

Remember you can also always come to the board to get support and to chats as well.

Let us know how things go? Iím sorry if this didnít help at all, I think I rambled a bit but I tried...

Esme x"
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Support Circles on Sundays

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on the 17th of December. If you'd like to come along, feel free to sign-up closer to the time (when we post the thread for it).
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    Hi guys

    I'm 25 years old and am getting married next year. However, all excitement is being taken over by how much i hate myself in a wedding dress. I've been told by almost everyone i meet i look 16 - I've even been mistaken for a pupil AT MY JOB and questioned by parents of the pupils i teach if i'm on work experience. I've been teaching for 4 years...

    As a result, every wedding dress i try on makes me feel like a teenager playing dress up. I know this probably seems shallow and vain but it's starting to become a massive shadow over the whole planning of the wedding every girl dreams about. It's really getting me down because i genuinely feel ridiculous in a dress. It probably doesn't help that as a teenager i suffered from an eating disorder and reached a size 0 - i'm now a healthy size 8-10 but I've never got rid of the nagging feeling that i've never looked quite right, whether it be my eyebrows, weight, height... even the size of my head (which is small! the smallest graduation hat they do had to be pinned to my head - I'm 5ft 7!). My age being questioned constantly doesn't help... Luckily i have a really supportive partner but i don't want to ruin the wedding experience for him.

    Does anyone have any advice for me?

    Thanks in advance x x x

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    Hello #skss17

    Thank you for wanting to share this.

    First of all, I think it's great that you look younger than your age, you can use it to your advantage when you're older. I am hoping that I'll be able to do that too! I too have also been mistaken for being a student when I worked at a college a few months ago (by the very same tutor that taught me Spanish during my A-levels) but I would advise that you try to let it go over your shoulder.

    I'm sure you are not ruining the experience for your partner. He loves you and wants to marry you and I'm sure through many of your qualities, he sees the beauty in you. I say you try to push everyone else's perceptions aside, and think about how beautiful you're going to look walking down that aisle regardless of what anybody else thinks. You deserve to be excited for your big day.

    On many occasions, I've been told that I look younger than my age and I've just thought to myself, "at least I am me." and that's the best person to be. Don't change your image of how you dress. You'll know which dress is the one!

    Personally, I've never tried a wedding dress on, only bridesmaid ones as I am 22 years old but I do hope to marry my boyfriend and best friend in the future.

    I wish you all the happiness in the world and hope that you'll find a way to smile, hold your head up high and be proud of how beautiful you'll look.


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      Hi #skss17,
      Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! Two things come to mind when I read your post. The first is the suggestion to use make-up. Sometimes wearing makeup can make you feel older (like it did when I was a kid using my mumís lipstick). If you feel like makeup might help you feel more confident in feeling and appearing older, you could treat yourself to a make-up session with a professional to teach you how to best style your appearance. With that being said, I think itís important to remember that other peopleís opinions of you are not as important as your own. You are a grown woman with a career and an upcoming marriage, so try to remind yourself in times of doubt ( like when youíre trying on a wedding dress) that you donít need anyoneís permission to feel grown up and beautiful. My second thought when reading your post is that your partner might actually be a really good resource for you. Expressing this concern of yours to him may help you feel better, and if he happens to be nervous in any way for the wedding, this would also give him an opportunity to share his concerns with you. Sometimes just vocalizing a concern of mine can help it stop circling in my head.

      How are you getting on now?
      - Mica


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