Essential support for under 25s



Post of The Month

Abigail is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hi there,

Welcome to the boards. Hope you gind it more helpful.

Its hard to find support, sorry that no one will take you to see your gp/doctor i am not sure if this is the same for you but you are aload to book doctors appointments without your parents being there and you can attend them unacccompanied.

Depression and other illness can be quite scary especially when your quite young. Do have a look round the site there are lots of useful articles and information on here.

You are not alone.

Sunday to thursday we have support chats and general chats on at 8pm till 9:30pm if you would like to join them. They are a great way to get to know people and seak support at the same time. Heres the link to the page -

Hope to see you round

(Click for full post )
See more
See less

Go away Gold Digger, I'm Broke.

  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Go away Gold Digger, I'm Broke.

    I always used to say that I would never (ever) get a credit card. My decision of this was based upon my mum and how she'd brought me up.
    "Don't spend the money you don't have." would be the phrase that would stick in my mind. But now I'm older I realise that it isn't as simple as that and I have magically found myself in this massive money-less ditch.

    I have a flat and I also have a boyfriend. While on housing benefit (despite working 40+ hours a week) my boyfriend doesn't work. He left his job with no safety net and I said that was okay. I mean, he had looked after me when I was unemployed for a few months so I had no problem returning the favour. He left because he worked nights and we suspect he's got anxiety. I could SEE his discomfort and we both agreed that he needed to leave for the sake of his well-being. However, a year later and still no job and now I am really scraping the barrel.

    A lot of people think he's mugging me off and he's just with me for a free ride. It's not that, I know it's not, but I believe he has a lot of deep-rooted issues that is stopping him from getting out there and getting a job. I admit- I don't think I helped him when I said it was okay for him to leave his job but at the time I thought I had his best interest at heart. Now I can see that we acted only thinking of the short-term benefits.

    I'm sure you can imagine what types of effects it has had on me. With a boyfriend at home playing games all day, working 40+ hours a week, cooking, cleaning and paying all the bills. The only word that doesn't come close to describing it to its full extent is 'STRESSED', capital letters and all, bold and double underlined.
    Yes, we have discussed it and no, we haven't got any further than that. At the moment our current status is MIGHT get a job in September and I'm holding onto hope.

    Nevertheless I'm creating realistic plans to crawl my way out of this ditch, with mud under my nails. and when I get out I will beam a huge smile, deeply sigh with relief and scrub those damn nails of mine.
    Last edited by peachy; 05-06-2017, 05:09 PM.

  • #2
    Hi peachy,

    I'm sorry this situation is causing you so much stress. Money can be one of the hardest things for people to talk about, particularly in relationships. You're taking a great step by discussing him getting a job, and there seems to be a plan in place. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about seeing someone for his anxiety? Finding someone who he can talk to about his issues might help him get back on track.

    Hope this is helpful,


    • #3
      Hi Kathleen, thank you.
      You've been truly helpful. I'll start discussing with him the idea of going to the doctor. I just think he doesn't really want to have anxiety and avoiding the diagnosis would mean that he doesn't suffer from it when in reality that's not the case.


      • #4
        Hi peachy!

        Just wanted to check in. How are things going with your boyfriend?



        Hide this page

        Local Advice Finder

        Find local services

        The Mix. Registered charity number: 1048995