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Support Circles on Sundays

Hey everyone,

We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

This next Sunday support circle will be on 26 November. If you'd like to come along, (sign up by completing the form here )
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Chatwee Update

Update - There's been some technical difficulties launching Chatwee onto our website so we will not be moving to Chatwee on Thursday.

As soon as we fix this issue, we'll announce another date for launching. We're really sorry for the delay in Chatwee, thanks so much for your patience.
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Post of The Month (September)

Maisy is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Shaunie,

​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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Go away Gold Digger, I'm Broke.

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  • Go away Gold Digger, I'm Broke.

    I always used to say that I would never (ever) get a credit card. My decision of this was based upon my mum and how she'd brought me up.
    "Don't spend the money you don't have." would be the phrase that would stick in my mind. But now I'm older I realise that it isn't as simple as that and I have magically found myself in this massive money-less ditch.

    I have a flat and I also have a boyfriend. While on housing benefit (despite working 40+ hours a week) my boyfriend doesn't work. He left his job with no safety net and I said that was okay. I mean, he had looked after me when I was unemployed for a few months so I had no problem returning the favour. He left because he worked nights and we suspect he's got anxiety. I could SEE his discomfort and we both agreed that he needed to leave for the sake of his well-being. However, a year later and still no job and now I am really scraping the barrel.

    A lot of people think he's mugging me off and he's just with me for a free ride. It's not that, I know it's not, but I believe he has a lot of deep-rooted issues that is stopping him from getting out there and getting a job. I admit- I don't think I helped him when I said it was okay for him to leave his job but at the time I thought I had his best interest at heart. Now I can see that we acted only thinking of the short-term benefits.

    I'm sure you can imagine what types of effects it has had on me. With a boyfriend at home playing games all day, working 40+ hours a week, cooking, cleaning and paying all the bills. The only word that doesn't come close to describing it to its full extent is 'STRESSED', capital letters and all, bold and double underlined.
    Yes, we have discussed it and no, we haven't got any further than that. At the moment our current status is MIGHT get a job in September and I'm holding onto hope.

    Nevertheless I'm creating realistic plans to crawl my way out of this ditch, with mud under my nails. and when I get out I will beam a huge smile, deeply sigh with relief and scrub those damn nails of mine.
    Last edited by peachy; 05-06-2017, 05:09 PM.

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    Hi peachy,

    I'm sorry this situation is causing you so much stress. Money can be one of the hardest things for people to talk about, particularly in relationships. You're taking a great step by discussing him getting a job, and there seems to be a plan in place. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about seeing someone for his anxiety? Finding someone who he can talk to about his issues might help him get back on track.

    Hope this is helpful,


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      Hi Kathleen, thank you.
      You've been truly helpful. I'll start discussing with him the idea of going to the doctor. I just think he doesn't really want to have anxiety and avoiding the diagnosis would mean that he doesn't suffer from it when in reality that's not the case.


      • #4
        Hi peachy!

        Just wanted to check in. How are things going with your boyfriend?



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