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We're going to be running support circles once a month on a Sunday! At the moment they run on Tuesdays, but for one of those Tuesdays, each month they will be running on a Sunday instead.

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Chatwee Update

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​I care. I really relate to what you have been experiencing with the house falling apart, and things not getting fixed due to general shame of the state of the house and not knowing where to begin fixing things or who to contact (you don't want to come across rogue tradesmen). Not even having adequate heating and hot water. And clutter. Everywhere. It's horrible to live in such circumstances, I know. It's hard as well when you see everyone else living a 'normal' life and yet being unable to talk about your situation."
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  • err.... your view?!?

    ok, well this might seem a little stooopid to ask, but if a girl has sex with a guy who she isn't going out with, then is she a slapper??
    bcoz, i mean, you might not have a proper relationship until you're like 17/18 (not meaning anything bad to all those who are younger and going out with ppl, but you get me...)
    rite, yeh.. so like, if ure 17/18 wen u r goin out with someone, does that mean that you're supposed to be a virgin until you're older?

  • #2
    There is no time that you're "supposed" to be a virgin or not, once you become a teenager. The right time is when you are 100% ready, not when your friends are ready or when anyone says you are. It's up to you.

    If you decide to have sex outside of a serious relationship, again, it's your decision, and if it's what you want and you know you're ready for it, it's fine. I've had sex without being in a relationship and it was fulfilling and wonderful and I don't regret it at all. I don't think I'm a "slapper" for doing it.

    Again, do what is right for YOU.

    An eye for an eye makes the world blind.


    • #3
      A'dee.........WEll Said!!!
      Im Serious, No-one loves me...


      • #4
        Why is everyone so ashamed at being a virgin? I never was. I waited to be in a loving relationship and sex was/is wonderful.
        Now, please somebody define what a 'slapper' means by todays standards. Being brought up in the 60/70 a 'slapper' was anyone who opened her legs for anyone for casual sex. 'Easy' was another term used also 'dog',
        'slut' was a favourite as well. What you think about yourself is whats important but do remember others are likely to call you such names.


        • #5
          ok right this doesnt make sence, If a lass sleeps around shes a slag right?, but if a lad sleeps around hes a sex god, it dont make sence!

          :::::_-Some People Are Born With Greatness, Some People Have Greatness Thrust Upon them, Some People Achieve Greatness, Others Will always be total Gits-_:::::
          :::::_-Some People Are Born With Greatness, Some People Have Greatness Thrust Upon them, Some People Achieve Greatness, Others Will always be total Gits-_:::::


          • #6
            why should you have ti be a virgin till youre older? whenever you feel ready, as amadee saiud more soberly than me.

            ive got a friend who i would consider to be a slapper. shell use men for sex and drinks basically. and often does, ie tonight. but thats up to her really, im not gonna yell at her and shit, its her life.

            personally i lost my virginity in a loving long termr ealtionship (at 17). i think that i wouldl recommend losing your V that way. but after that, weeeeell thats up to you really isnt it? ive not had casual SEX with someone per se, but you know, stuff. i dont feel a slut for it either, i might jokingly say to my m8s the next day "god ims uch a slut" but idont really think ikt of myself.

            its up to the oerson involved what they feel comfortanle with.

            p.s. - sorry bout typiung.

            "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
            ~ Nietzsche


            • #7
              we'd all like to think that our first time is going to be perfect, and we should all work to a point where it's in as good a situation as possible, i.e. loving relationship.

              but just because that first time happened in a situation that was not so perfect, doesn't mean a girl or a boy is a slapper. it means that relationship didn't work out and that they've learned something to use for the next relationship.

              and there's no set age on virginity. hopefully it's something you decide to do when you're absolutely ready, whether that's when your 14 or 40. you're the only one who knows what's good for you.

              good luck mojo.


              • #8
                I dont think that a girl who has sex with a guy she isnt going out with is a slapper. And as Boi Racer I think it was said, why is it always the girl whos a slapper while the lad is a big sex god? Thats just outdated, sexist and stupid!

                [This message has been edited by bubblebabe101 (edited 24-06-2001).]


                • #9
                  thnx for all ure replies <IMG alt="image" SRC="">
                  i did think that the best way to lose ure virginity was in a relationship with someone, who you really love, but my mate said to me that it's better to lose your V with someone you don't really care about so that you have more 'experience' when you are with someone you care bout.

                  (long sentance eh?)

                  i didn't think that that was right, and i told her so, but she err.... wasn't happy to say the least. She now thinks that i am completely against the idea of having sex until, ure, like, married.
                  which i don't.
                  i just wanted some people's opinion about the whole thing, coz i got a bit confused.
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                  • #10
                    does it realy matter what somone calls you, if a girl sleeps around so what. if I was a girl i would.
                    and that thing about a man being a sex god does that include stingfellow.


                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Sy:
                      if I was a girl i would.
                      yeah, but ur from essex <IMG alt="image" SRC=""> *ducks as all essex girls nad lads attack*

                      Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
                      All these talking machines are getting me down. My car tells me to put my seatbelt on, my fridge tells me to shut the door and my table lamp tells me to go out and kill people.


                      • #12
                        i just get pissed off bout my friends going on about their sex lives when im sitting there all melancholy bout my ex :-(....... but i think if i had casual sex as my first time i'd feel empty afterwards..... then again what would i know?

                        I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath
                        I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath


                        • #13
                          this is just me, but i could never be intimate with someone i didn't really care for.

                          in my opinion, a slapper is someone who has sex without any emotion. it's not the same thing as sex in a relationship at all.


                          • #14
                            Originally posted by opera bitch:

                            in my opinion, a slapper is someone who has sex without any emotion. it's not the same thing as sex in a relationship at all.[/B]
                            like a prostitute the have sex without emotion, or are you just talking about people who have night stands for fun.
                            sex is not just to show how much you love someone, its about enjoyment and fun.
                            if you place restictions on who you do it with you may be missing out.
                            and i must agree sex in a relasionship can be completey satifying, then can become rutine and dull. which is not the same as a one night stand


                            • #15
                              yeah, i meant like a prostitute. i have nothing against people who have one night stands, it's just i couldn't have one myself. i couldn't have sex if i didn't care about my partner.


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