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"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
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Dating for social phobics

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  • Dating for social phobics

    Many mental illnesses make it harder to engage with others socially, never mind sexually, but social phobia in particular is very common and always hinders your attempts to even be with others- especially those you find attractive.

    Since I'm very socially withdrawn and introverted- and also socially phobic/anxious like millions of others- I was wondering if anyone had any tips for, well, dating. Where do I meet girls with similar interests to me? Should I hide what I'm really like or should I be upfront? Is there even any way to specifically date others with social phobia/anxiety who also find it hard and understand? That kind of thing.

    Dating advice in general is most welcome (I'm 17 and i've still never been in a sexual relationship, what a fail) but I'm really looking for something that speaks to me and other social phobics out there. Help a brother out 😂. Thanks guys 😁

    Believe it or not, we don't actually want to be lonely 😭
    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet

  • #2
    I really don't wanna die alone 😭
    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


    • #3
      Have you tried dating sites?


      • #4
        No, most of them are 18+ anyway, and you can't be sure who you're actually talking to.

        Have you seen catfish before?
        "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


        • #5
          Hi there its ok to be socially introverted. Maybe it's about going to places where other people with similar interests go? What do you like to do for fun for example if you play computer games could you see if anyone you know is also interested?

          Maybe just try to be friends with someone to begin with see if you like them before moving on to date them.


          • #6
            I'm starting to regret making this thread, I think people like me are just meant to be alone
            "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


            • #7
              Sorry about earlier, I really wasn't in a good mood.

              ​Thanks for the advice both of you. It might be easier for me to meet new people over the interwebs than face-to-face, and I suppose it makes sense to only want to be friends initially, and see where it goes from there. Even if I didn't like them in that​ way, we could still be friends. That said, I'm still probably going to stay single for quite a while yet xD

              Best of luck to all the other singles out there who have to survive valentine's day alone
              ​ I mean, have fun having all the chocolates to yourself
              "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


              • #8
                Hey Aidan,
                Completely get it can be hard to meet people and it's easy to feel alone! But often relationships come surprisingly and not when you expect! Or as you said, they often come out of friendships! Keep your head high and remember that any outcome is fine! Either way you could end up making friends with someone!
                Speak soon!


                • #9
                  Aidan, do you have difficulty making friends - or is it dating that's most difficult for you?


                  • #10

                    Both- it's always been a problem for me. Even when I was in nursery and primary school, they kept sending me to doctors to be tested for things like autism or asperger's, but never got any diagnosis. I just never feel like I'm close with anyone, and I've got this unshakeable (and admittably irrational) distrust of people I don't know. I wouldn't even be here if I didn't realise it wasn't normal.

                    Hopefully now that I'm on fluoxetine and getting therapy, any underlying issues might get dealt with too.

                    Thanks for replying, some of this advice has should useful 😊
                    "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                    • #11
                      You've been prescribed fluoxetine, but haven't been diagnosed with any mental disorder?


                      • #12
                        Depression and social anxiety, yes.

                        I just meant I hadn't been diagnosed with anything when school referred me to the doctor's because they suspected autism or something, about 10 years ago now.
                        "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


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                          For how long have you suffered from social anxiety?
                          Last edited by Robert; 13-02-2017, 09:58 PM.


                          • #14
                            I honestly have no idea, the symptoms seem to be relevant for me most of my life. Technically speaking though, I've had it a few month now, because psychiatrists.
                            "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"- Hamlet


                            • #15
                              You mean you were diagnosed with social anxiety disorder a few months ago?


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