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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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How to deal with a bully?

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    2 years ago, it all started. I noticed my neighbours sister always stared at me whenever I went out the house and didn't stop looking at me. Then my nephews would come with my sister to see me. They wanted to play out with the other boys. Sometimes they were nice and sometimes they damn right evil. Throwing stones, dragging them across a field and swearing at them. We didn't like it but their mother asked if he said sorry and he did. But they carried on. And one day I was babysitting, one of my nephews kept getting hit so his brother started having a fight with him just like he did to my nephew. All of a sudden their mother came out. She never watched them or checked on them until this one day and she decided to have a go at me and my nephew. Then another neighbour (who didnt like me because I put my bins out where she didnt want me to) came out and started calling me fat head and that no likes me round here. Anyway, the mother kept coming to my house and making up stories that I shouted at her son when it was all lies. I dont like any trouble I suffered depression in the past. Then the mothers sister decided to start on me and said she will get her 9 year old daughter to hit my nephews. She rode her bike into me and waved at me smiling to intimidate me. She also would do this whenever she saw me and if with her sister she'd say look its your mates. I also had them throwing stones at my place and laughing and letting their kids also pull their fingers up and call me tramp etc. The police visited her to warn her but she lied to them saying my nephews threatened her daughter. I was so shocked! She still acts pothetic and childish to this day and its making me angry, nervous, anxious and lost my appetite. Dont know how to deal with it. I moved, what else can I do.
    Last edited by Stars2; 26-08-2017, 07:52 PM.

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    Hi Stars2

    It sounds like a really intimidating place you've come from, it can be shocking when people are mean or lie.

    How's it been since you moved? What's going on when you feel angry now?



    • #3
      Hi Stars2

      ​It's great that you've felt you've been able to seek support from us here at The Mix.

      ​It sounds as if you've had to deal with a lot of torment and intimidation from some very difficult people. I'll start off by saying that you did the right thing by contacting the police as it sounds like you felt that you were at risk of harm. How did the police proceed in this case and did you complete a statement? Also we are all so different and sometimes we just do not get on well with others, it is not your fault, some people can just be outright terrible people!

      How is your new location? Do you still have contact with this person?

      In terms of your anxiety has this improved since moving or do you wish to talk to us more about it?

      - Sunny


      • #4
        it sounds like you've had to deal with quite a lot of intimidation, its good that you contacted the police have they done anything or have you completed a statement? do you still have contact with them?
        and how is your new place are you finding it better? I hope moving has taken pressure off the anxiety but remember that we're all here for you and if you need to talk about it the mix will always be available x
        "Weave me a rope that will pull me through these impossible times"
        ~ Tim Finn

        - LAINE


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