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  • he can't cum during sex!

    me and my partner have been together for nearly 3 years, and we have a reasonably healthy sex life. we're using comdoms and i'm on the pill to regulate my periods.

    no matter what we try he just can't seem to cum from sex, which is kind of annoying me! he's said that it's not that i'm not tight enough but it just doesn't seem to happen, he doesn't even get close and we do go on for quite a while sometimes...he says he still enjoys it but i want him to enjoy it that much more.

    what can we do/try? we have done many posistions, tried different types of comdoms and nothing makes much difference. i can make he cum by other ways, but sex just doesn't seem to get it....

    help!

  • #2
    Does he think it's a problem? And are there any other reasons that would prevent him from coming e.g. medication, health problems etc..
    Sic hoc adfixum in obice legere potes, et liberaliter educatus et nimis propinquus ades

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    • #3
      .

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      • #4
        Maybe hes stressed or worried about something.

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        • #5
          no, he doesn't think its a serious problem, but its becoming a bit of a wedge between us. but if i do anything else to him he can cum, and he can make himself cum easily. but i can't....during sex

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          • #6
            Originally posted by __tink
            Maybe hes stressed or worried about something.
            hes a very relaxed person....and this has been going on since the beginning of our relationship...but hes asked me too add that he thinks i'm extremely sex (i think he needs glasses) but he doesn't have problems getting a hard on either...its odd

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            • #7
              Originally posted by darkshines
              no, he doesn't think its a serious problem, but its becoming a bit of a wedge between us. but if i do anything else to him he can cum, and he can make himself cum easily. but i can't....during sex
              Have you tried without the condoms?
              Sic hoc adfixum in obice legere potes, et liberaliter educatus et nimis propinquus ades

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              • #8
                not really, he's too worried about getting me up the duff even though i'm on the pill...

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by darkshines
                  not really, he's too worried about getting me up the duff even though i'm on the pill...
                  I suspect worry may be the root of the probelm
                  Wake up! Time to die...

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Replicant
                    I suspect worry may be the root of the probelm


                    That and the pressure you're putting on him to come.
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                    • #11
                      i was thinking that too, but he says that normally its just not the right sensation for him to be able to cum...

                      i suppose i am putting him under some pressure, but he says he really doesn't care because he enjoys it anyway...maybe i'm being a little possesive about it...

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                      • #12
                        Stuff than can do the trick... he can try holding his respiration or if you are into bdsm you can do suffocation (really carefully tho!)... otherwise as it has been said on this forum before, he can lie down on his back in bed with his head out of the mattres, so it is down... you on top is suggested here or you giving him a head... there will be more pressure due to the amount of blood in his brain increasing and more chance for him to cum... it is not a guarantee but it can do the job... also did you ever asked him if he had any fetish... not saying it's that but maybe he has some fetishes, like leather clothes, vinyl or others... and he might need them to get the exitement he needs to be able to finish...

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                        • #13
                          The condom could be making the difference to his sensation.

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                          • #14
                            Has he never cum through sex, even with other people?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by secondsophie
                              Has he never cum through sex, even with other people?
                              good question...

                              As well did he ever manage to come by masturbating?

                              does he use any kind of drugs?

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