Essential support for under 25s


1 of 3 < >

Prize draw!

We're running a prize draw here on the discussion boards! Take a look here to get involved.
2 of 3 < >

Post of The Month (August)

Meggles is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"my recent post and a comment from another user has made me realise that self care is so important.

I wanted to start a thread in the Health and Wellbeing section of the boards about self care.

Self care is provided by you, for you

I know a lot of us are struggling at the moment with different aspects of our own lives, and sometimes we get so lost in these we forget to take time for ourselves. This tread is, a Reminder to you to take time out for yourself during the difficult times.

down in the comments I would really love for people to share ideas and tips about self- care. to remind ourselves and others in the community.

My way of self care when i recognise ( or someone recognises i have neglected myself) is:

Take a walk and admire whats around me ( take as long as needed)
treat myself to a bath with a bathbomb and bubbles ( bubbles are important)
make a hot drink and just sit down with a film.

Please feel free to share your ideas!

The Mix have a guide to self-care which you can find here."
(Click for full post )
3 of 3 < >

Get involved

Fancy hosting one of our General Chats, or getting involved with the community in another way? Let us know here.
See more
See less

changing personality traits

  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • changing personality traits

    in short i wanna stop being such a bitch.

    im never mean to be outright nasty to people but usually paople take my jokes the wrong way. i am naturally a very sarcastic person and i just assume that everyone else is the same.

    i didnt realise that i affected people until someone pointed out to me that i had offended one of my best mates.

    my mates mean the world to me, really. i dont want to lose any friends, but on the other hand i dont want to stop being me.

    any advise?
    Happiness is like peeing your pants, everyone can see it,
    but only you can feel the true warmth :D

    will you be the pee in my pants?
    "if we knew the outcome it wouldnt be called reaserch!." -Albert Einstein

  • #2
    Proper friends will always love you for who you are with your good assets and your flaws... If I was you I wouldn't try to change... If you are just being yourself now, just keep on doing that... you want people to like you for who you are and not for who you think they want you to be... I know doesn't really help you if you really want to change your personality traits, but imo don't do it...


    • #3
      Stop being a mean twat .

      I know what you mean - I get the same thing. I guess it's just a case of working out where the line is - we all go over it from time to time, but we need to act quickly upon realising we've caused distress to those we care about.

      Could do worse than just tell your close friends that you'd like them to tell you when you've gone over the mark, and that it'll never be intentional?


      • #4
        haha you're the same as me! though perhaps i'm not soo bad. think i've got better! my friends have got used to me and thankfully i have a nack for getting out of tricky situations.


        • #5
          cheers for your thorts people,

          i think im going to ask them to tell me when i've crossed the line, i was thinking about it before i posted. i was getting quite paraniod that they would turn aroung and go your perminantly accross the line lol
          Happiness is like peeing your pants, everyone can see it,
          but only you can feel the true warmth :D

          will you be the pee in my pants?
          "if we knew the outcome it wouldnt be called reaserch!." -Albert Einstein


          • #6
            perhaps you could just think before you speak a bit more and remember when you're around people you don't really know?

            either that or learn the nack of smiling sweetly like me!


            • #7
              Ooh that is EXACTLY like me!

              Everyone takes stuff I say the wrong way, even my family who should know me well enough by now not to get offended!

              I am trying to be 'nicer' but sometimes sarky little remarks just slip out! They're never intentionally nasty though.


              • #8
                I dont think you can really change the way you are. The best thing to do would probably be to tell this friend who got upset, that you had no idea you'd offended her.

                Like nihilisticmadman already said, although it sounds a bit lame, real friends have ups and downs, but they're your friends for a reason.


                • #9
                  Its easy to think that everyone thinks the same way as you. I dont care how people talk to me, but some people think I'm a tit when I am always so cutting.

                  I've had to thinka bout what I'm saying.


                  Hide this page

                  Local Advice Finder

                  Find local services

                  The Mix. Registered charity number: 1048995