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Meeting with Store Manager on Saturday- Could lead to losing my job!!!!

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  • Meeting with Store Manager on Saturday- Could lead to losing my job!!!!

    On Saturday at 3pm I have a meeting with my store manager because I have been accused of harassing people by constant messages sent to them. I only sent them messages because I needed some advice about what I was going through and whether work should be aware and now its led to this meeting on Saturday which I'm scared could make me lose my job if he doesn't think my reasoning is good enough. I am allowed to take someone into the meeting with me just to make sure its fair but I'm worried if I do that then the person will think I'm a bad person for getting in this much trouble. the person I'm thinking about taking with me does know some of the stuff I'm going through so that might help. I'm worried because 50% of my wages go to family because of whats going on at the moment so it wont just effect me but my family a lot.

  • #2
    Were you sending text messages to your colleagues during work hours? Were the texts work-related or to do with your life outside work?


    • #3
      It was outside of work hours and it had no link to work


      • #4
        I don't see why your colleagues have complained about you to the boss, nor why he's getting involved. What happens outside of work and is unrelated to work is irrelevant to him. Your colleagues should have talked to you about this outside work.


        • #5
          Yeah neither do because it's got nothing to do with work! Yeah they should have spoken to me if they had a problem with it instead of getting work involved. I'm scared for the meeting and also I have reasons for contacting the members of staff!


          • #6
            You might want to take someone with you to the meeting. You can tell your boss during the meeting that the complaints against you are irrelevant to work, so he cant take action against you for it. If he does punish you, ask the Citizens' Advice Bureau for advice about it.


            • #7
              I'm taking one of my supervisors with me to the meeting who knows what I'm going through! He has seen the messages that have been sent though and obviously thinks it's harrasment but it's only because I needed advice on whether I should tell them what's going on and now I don't feel I can talk to anyone at work which is making me feel so much worse about what's going on! What will that company do?!


              • #8
                What exactly is the problem with the texts? The number of them? The content of them? Is there anything in what you sent that could be considered threatening or insulting?


                • #9
                  The number of texts that I've sent and there is nothing wrong with the content because there isn't anything work related! No


                  • #10
                    An update to this situation is I have decided to resign from my job because I need to be there for my family right now through the difficult time that is happening right now


                    • #11
                      Hey Laura,

                      I get the feeling that's not the outcome you were after, but it does sound like it might be quite a positive move overall to be with your family.

                      The Citizens' Advice Bureau was a good shout by Robert - they can give you legal and financial advice and information around things like this. Not sure if that's relevant to your situation any more, but thought I'd elaborate just in case!

                      Best of luck with things, it sounded like quite a tricky and unfair situation.
                      Taking care of yourself takes care of more than just yourself.


                      • #12
                        Quitting means forfeiting any chance of a settlement or the opportunity to take action if unfairly suspended/dismissed.

                        Does quitting a job make it difficult/impossible to claim Jobseeker's Allowance? Would the Benefits Agency say that you deliberately made yourself unemployed?


                        • #13
                          Hi Mike, Thanks for getting back to me. I have decided not to hand in my notice quite yet, instead ive expressed my feelings about work with a manager and they are trying to sort the situatin out. My family feel I should keep the job but it was me that felt I needed to leave to help them more. I will continue to help my family as much as possible, it got back at work on Friday because I cried infront of my supervisor because everything was getting to me. Yeah I might have a look at that service thanks. Thanks and yeh things are tricky at the moment.


                          • #14
                            Hi Robert. I decdied not to quit and ive expressed my feelings with work and they are trying to sort out the issue. I will continue to support my family and work but if work don't sort out my issues then I will still leave


                            • #15
                              You said that the texts weren't work-related, so what problem do you have at work?


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