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Expert chat: Enthusiastic Consent & Conditional Consent (Wed 21st February)

Hey everyone!

On Wednesday 21st Feb at 6.30pm, Sarah our expert, will be running an expert chat about Enthusiastic Consent and Conditional Consent.

Sarah is the co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a community of women with the aim to destigmatise and normalise the conversation around female sexuality.

Suffering from post traumatic stress disorder after experiencing a number of traumas, including rape, Sarah is reclaiming her body by engaging in bodybuilding and powerlifting. Taking back control of her sexuality, she is currently remaining abstinent. Working and campaigning with other women for the sexual empowerment of women has been an integral part of her healing journey.

Come along and join us! Find out more here
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Vanilla features: have your say

As we move to our new boards software, Vanilla, we'll have a few new features at our disposal. We're keen to hear what you all think about them, so head here to have your say over how we'll use (or not use) some of the new features. Fill out the form before Wednesday the 21st to tell us your thoughts and have the option of joining our testing team!
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The Great Boards Migration

Great news! We're moving to new discussion boards software. Head here for the full announcement.
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Post of The Month

One-in-a-million is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Just a bit of fun here if you could create an advent calendar what would you put in it and why.

For me you would still get chocolate 😆😆
But inside each door is a task for the day. Something that includes you helping/talking to others, doing something festive and spreading Christmas cheer
For example

1. Tell your parents/carers you love them
2. Say hello when passing an OAP (that might be the only thing someone says to them all week)
3. Watch a Christmas movie
4. Help someone in need e.g put some spare change in a charity box, buy a warm drink for the homeless person who sits on the corner, dothe washing up ha ha ha😂
5 make hot chocolate
6. Visit your grandparents (if you donít already) They will more than likely love to see you.
7. Sing a Christmas song with a friend
8. Dress up in something Christmasy when you do your shopping.

You get the idea 😂😉 my reason for this is to get people in the mood and understand what Christmas actually means.

What would yours have and why."
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'Depression' and 'anxiety' at a new job

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  • 'Depression' and 'anxiety' at a new job

    I've written a few things on here before about my situation with mental health.
    Unfortunately today of all days I came to the realisation that it probably is a lot worse than I thought.

    Today, I started a new job, it's my first ever job as I've spent my whole life so far in education. It's in the kitchen of a hospital, where I help clean things and take food to the different wards, it's incredibly faced paced and demanding. I was really excited but nervous to start this job - the prospect of finally having an income to get me out of debt made me happy. During my first shift today, which was only 5 hours, I found it increasingly difficult to work without watching the clock and waiting to leave.

    I'm already having bad anxiety about working tomorrow, I don't want to go back.

    Even though I haven't been diagnosed by a doctor (yet), I am aware that I possess traits, actions and thoughts of someone with depression and anxiety (I don't want to just say that I have it, as I don't want to disrespect anyone if I haven't been diagnosed with it). I've felt like this for the best part of 10 years, but only in the last year I truly come to realise it and understand it.

    I've realised how much the way I feel is affecting me, to the point where my first day of work ends in me having a breakdown.

    I want to go to a doctor about this, I've been on the fence about it for a long time, but I feel that I do need to start taking action now.
    The thing is, I don't know how to go about asking my new employer for time off to seek help as it's so soon after starting.

    I also don't know the course of action that would take place for me to get help while employed. I don't know anything about mental health and sick pay for this stuff. I'm 99% sure I won't get sick pay because even though I'm contracted to work a minimum of 20 hours a week, my role is 'temporary' (temporary in this job is anywhere from a few months to a few years) so I don't get the perks of sick pay.

    Part of me wants to leave this job, find something else more suited to my needs. (part time, 3 or 4 days a week so there's enough time for me to breathe, doctors appointments, etc) but I feel like I'd be such a disappointment to myself, my boyfriend and my parents if I left this job after less than a week after trying so hard to get one.

    If anyone has advice or knows the steps I would need to take to get help through all this I would appreciate it more than anything.

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    Hiya x

    If you go to your GP you will be able to get support and a diagnosis. if you opt for support you will be able to fit appointments around your work. and if you find it too hard at this moment in time and find you have to quit or take time off there is no shame in that, at this moment in time its about what's best for your wellbeing. try speaking to co-worker or your boss about it.
    the mix have an article about where to go to get support which you might also find helpful:

    If you have any other questions or need more support never hesitate to ask x

    All the best
    "Weave me a rope that will pull me through these impossible times"
    ~ Tim Finn

    - LAINE


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