How to confront a friend
It's fine to let things go, after all they're your friend. But when it goes too far, or they've done something one too many times, it's time to speak up. But how do you confront someone without losing them as a friend?
1. Don’t bottle things up
Sometimes it’s easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn’t make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them – which doesn’t solve anything.
2. Choose your moment
Whether your friend’s just being annoying without realising or they’ve done something terrible that’s totally wound you up, it’s always wise to pick a good time to talk – preferably when you’re feeling calm and there’s nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
3. Explain how you feel
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they’ve caused for themselves, they’ll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
4. Avoid accusations
Nobody likes to feel as if they’re being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don’t lay into them – it’ll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
5. Give them space
You can’t expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you’re both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Updated on 29-Sep-2015
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