How can I get them to approve of my sugar daddy?

I am dating a man who is almost 15 years older than me. I'm 23 he is 38. I am falling in love and I think he is too. When we first met I took issue with the age difference, but now I hardly even realize that he is older. The age difference doesn't even cross our minds, but I know some people might think it's inappropriate so I'm not sure how I should go about telling my parents. Can you help?

Some people might think that 15 years is quite a long time just in terms of how different your experience of life might be. But if you enjoy each other’s company and no one else is being hurt as a result of your relationship, then there doesn’t seem any reason why you shouldn’t share your happiness with your loved ones.

Your parents may be more concerned about what kind of a man your partner is, rather than his age. They are more likely to be concerned about how kind he is to you, if he has a job and how you feel about him, rather than the age gap. If you love him, hopefully, your parents will be happy you’ve met someone you care for and who feels the same way about you.

If you do decide to tell them it might be a good idea to do so sooner rather than later, because the longer you keep your relationship a secret, the harder it will be to tell them, and the situation could be tainted by the idea of deceit.

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