What is a man?
A man can be many things, and not all of the characteristics and issues associated with being a man are particularly positive. From toxic masculinity, body image and the pressure to sleep around, to facing criminalisation, homelessness and more, men need our support to fight stereotypes and become their best selves. If you identify as male, remember that no problem or issue is too big to deal with. You are valued and important.
We asked some of the brilliant young men in our community what being a man means to them.
Being a man and managing emotional health
“Men are opening up about their emotions and mental health. It’s important that we continue to see men being more honest about their wellbeing.” Scott, 23
“Being a man is difficult. Being ‘male’ can be a matter of fact, but being a man feels more like a matter of opinion. A lot of what relates to being a man can be both suffocating and unattainable.” Anick, 23
“Being a modern man means being comfortable with a much broader idea of masculinity. The ideas about what makes a man feel a lot less restrictive than they were in the past. It’s much more acceptable for men to openly express their emotions, talk about how we’re feeling, be caring and not fit into traditional ideas of what makes a man. There’s still a long way to go, but this is a really positive development in the right direction.” Will, 24
Societal expectations of being a man
“Is there a norm for men or women? Men’s role in the domestic sphere has changed most noticeably in the past year. As the terminology about ‘being a man’ changes, we’ll have to absorb the new reality.” Adam, 22
“As a gender we’re facing accountability we’ve never had to face before in the era of #MeToo, but we’re also being given the opportunity to redefine ourselves and reap the benefits of being more in-tune with the emotions of us and others.” Mike, 22
Being a man, and being yourself
“For me, being a man is about self-discovery, building self-awareness, emotional intelligence and most importantly, my legacy.” Jack, 22
“Being a man to me means being unapologetically you. It means not being afraid to show the world who you are, exactly as you are. Being a man is never being afraid to show your emotions, to be the little spoon and to ask for help when you need it. Being a man means rejecting toxic masculinity, embracing the differences of others and uplifting those around you.” Stevie, 26
What is a man to you?
Clearly being a man means different things to different people, but it seems like those who identify as men are optimistic about entering a new era where men can feel more comfortable about discussing their emotions and leaving behind some of the negative stereotypes of the past.
More support with masculinity
- CALM is dedicated to preventing male suicide. Call their national helpline for free on 0800 58 58 58, 5pm-midnight, or visit their webchat service .
- The Men’s Advice Line offers support for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner, ex-partner or other family members. Call the confidential free helpline on 0808 801 0327, Monday to Friday 9am-8pm.
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