How do I know if I'm being bullied?
Bullying isn’t always obvious to everyone around you. It can happen in many different spaces – at school, online, at work, at home, or at university. You can be bullied by your friends, someone in your family, someone you know, or sometimes by people you have never met.
Some examples of bullying behaviour:
- Being called names
- Punching, biting, kicking, or other physical violence
- Being excluded from conversations or social events
- Having your possessions stolen
- Being blamed for things you didn’t do
- Being sent hurtful messages
- Upsetting rumours being started about you
If you are experiencing any form of bullying or if you have been accused of bullying behaviour, you deserve support. Speak to our team today to take the first step towards finding help.
How do I help a friend who's being bullied?
If you’re worried about a friend, the best approach is to gently let them know that you are concerned about their wellbeing. Be sensitive and pick a time when you won’t be interrupted. Listen to what they say and support their wishes. If they are being bullied, remind them that help is available and that having told you is the first step towards getting help.
Face bullying together
- Identify when and where the bullying is happening and make sure you – or someone else – is accompanying them at these times.
- Stick up for your friend if you see them being bullied.
- Encourage them to report the bullying to someone else (you could offer to go with them).
- Keep offering your support, even after the bullying stops.
It can be hard to talk about bullying
Speaking out about bullying can be really tough. It’s easy to explain away bullying behaviour, to pretend that it’s normal or “just a bit of banter,” but we’re here to tell you that your experience is valid and that you deserve support. Watch this video to find out more.
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What is bullying?
Bullying is usually repeated behaviour, designed to inflict emotional or physical pain. No matter what form bullying takes, we want you to know that you deserve support and that we’re here to help you find it.
What is cyber bullying?
Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place in any online space and can also be referred to as online bullying, or sometimes trolling. Cyberbullying might take place on social media, or perhaps on an online community space, within an online gaming platform or on a dating app. Cyberbullying can have a huge impact on someone’s life and should be taken just as seriously as other forms of bullying. You can find out more here.
How can I find support for bullying at school?
If you’re struggling with bullying, speaking out can be really hard, but the first step is speaking out to find help and support. Speak to a teacher you trust, or perhaps another staff member, such as a teaching assistant or a nurse. The school has a duty of care to support your wellbeing and to take your concerns seriously.
It would also be helpful to tell your parents or carers what’s going on so they can support you too. If you can’t find the support you need at school then there are lots of other ways to find support. Read this article to find out more.
Where else can I find support for bullying?
Get in touch with the team at The Mix who are there to offer free, non-judgemental and confidential advice on bullying and any other issue. Contact our helpline or crisis text line to get support and information about how to cope with bullying, join our online group chat or sign up for up to eight sessions of free counselling.
You can also find support and friendship from other young people who are going through the same thing you are by joining The Mix’s online discussion boards.