How to Survive a Lads Holiday

Signed up for a holiday with the lads but now not sure it's your cup of tea? Apprehension is part of the package deal.

Lads take selfie on holiday by pool.

Lads, lads, lads!

Now first things first – we know lads holidays come in all shapes and sizes. Not every lads holiday looks like a scene from The Inbetweeners. But for the sake of this article, that’s exactly what we’re referring to. You know the type – the ones where matching vests are compulsory and getting laid is the name of the game. For some lads, these holidays are their reason for being. But for others a week of non-stop banter and boozing is a little worrisome. From budgeting tips to navigating sandy sex and dealing with herd mentality, this survival guide has you covered.

Budget like a pro

You might have found yourself a stellar package deal but with all the extras, holidays can still add up. Here’s how to budget:

  • Try out a kitty where everyone puts in the same amount of money to spend on joint things like food and drink. This should help to keep things fair, it avoids having to chase people for money and it means stingy types can’t weedle out of drink rounds.
  • Get yourself to a supermarket to stock up on essentials like breakfast food, sandwich making stuff and pre-drinks.
  • Apps like Splitwise are great for keeping track of who owes who what.
  • Keep an eye out for deals. Buying a package holiday including flights, accomodation and airport transfers should work out a lot cheaper than booking things individually.
  • Make sure you can use your phone abroad for no extra cost. If you can’t, buying a local SIM card will work out a lot cheaper.
  • Don’t trash the hotel. Picking up the bill for a smashed window or not getting your deposit back is really going to bum you out.

Don’t be a sheep

It’s easy to get caught up in herd mentality on a lads holiday. Just remember, even if your mates use the old ‘man up’ line, there’s no need to get a tattoo on your forehead or run through the resort naked if you don’t want to. Learn to say no if something makes you uncomfortable – this might feel awkward at first but it gets easier with practice – the trick is to say it with equal measures of confidence and humour. Remember:

  • Follow your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t right for you.
  • If a mate continuously makes you feel bad for not wanting to do something, think about whether that mate is worth keeping once you’re back home. Holidays are a great friendship test.
  • If you’re in a large group, stick with the people you feel most comfortable with and try sharing a room with them. Avoid the people who make you feel pressured.
  • Stand up for others being pressured. In return, they should stand up for you.  
  • Sticking to your morals and standing up for yourself is a greater sign of strength than giving into pressure.

Booze, booze, booze, lads, lads, lads

Beer for breakfast and drinking games by lunchtime sound familiar? Hangovers on lads holidays are to be expected but most will agree, the less time spent spewing outside a club you’ve just been refused entry to, the better. Here are a few tips for bypassing spew-fest.  

  • If your mates buy a round of shots but your head’s already spinning, grab an empty beer bottle and spit the shot back inside. It’ll look like you’ve just taken a swig of beer but in fact this is a masterful act of self preservation.
  • Don’t forget the food. Big breakfast, lunch and dinner will do a fine job of soaking up the booze.
  • Within some groups, pressured binge drinking can be a means to display masculinity. Again, avoid sheep mentality and read up about toxic masculinity and binge drinking.
  • For every alcoholic drink you have, have a glass of water. Not only a fine tactic for avoiding spew-fest but also a good energy boost.

Sun, sea and casual SEX

Whether that bumper pack of condoms you packed ends up getting any action or not, you’ll want to prep yourself for casual sex abroad.

  • Holiday sex can get pretty darn adventurous. Read up about drunk sex, sandy beach sex, public sex and sex in club toilets.
  • Remember that predatory vibes aren’t sexy. Read up about sexual consent and make sure your partner’s as into it as you are.
  • On some lads holidays there’ll be pressure to have sex. Manage expectations and try not to worry if you don’t pull. Enjoy the holiday and take an ‘if it happens, it happens’ attitude.
  • Sorry to get all schooly on you but STIs really aren’t fun. Remember to carry a condom in your wallet in case of impromptu sexy times.

 

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Updated on 26-Feb-2019

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